(March 3, 2015 at 11:30 pm)Redpandazzz Wrote: I appreciate the warm welcomeSadly though, almost all those ideas would be hard to pull off. JWs are normally against campus based college because there are 'temptations' there. Lol. So that would most likely not work. Also, the girl I spoke of is what you call a 'pioneer', meaning that she devotes a ton of her time to her faith and if I mentioned any kind of disbelief, she would most definitely tell on me, no matter how she feels about me. At this point I believe my best option is to make as much money as possible and try and buy a house out of high school.
The only solution I can manage to think of is to escape my family before confrontation causes real drama. If I could find an apartment, house (or a tiny house) I could avoid breaking my parents hearts and just leaving... I'm just glad I can talk about how I feel here bottling up my thoughts haven't been good for my health.
No one should have to go through any of that. Dammit.
You said "normally" JW are against campus colleges, but even if it would ruffle some feathers, would it destroy your relationship totally like telling them? Could you frame it as something faith related? You really want to be a doctor? Or a lawyer to help JW families, or something that doesn't make it seem like you are leaving the church? Also, it seems that just leaving would break their hearts just the same. Are you sure they'd disown you if you were disfellowshipped?
With the girlfriend situation, I know it's tough to hear, but if you cannot be yourself with a person, no matter how hard it is, you should let her go. For her sake as well as yours. If she would out you for even discussing doubts, not even saying you don't believe, but just asking questions, then she can't feel the same way about you that you feel about her. If you don't feel the relationship is tenable, then why hold on to it?
Is it at all possible to have a distant relationship with your parents if you left the area after you turn 18? This way you can still be in contact with them, but not be entrapped by the JW cult?
"There remain four irreducible objections to religious faith: that it wholly misrepresents the origins of man and the cosmos, that because of this original error it manages to combine the maximum servility with the maximum of solipsism, that it is both the result and the cause of dangerous sexual repression, and that it is ultimately grounded on wish-thinking." ~Christopher Hitchens, god is not Great
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