(March 9, 2015 at 11:43 pm)Parkers Tan Wrote: I don't think she's uncomfortable with word-choices, but rather, with the ugly tenor of the conversation. I did my best to be polite. Others, not so much.
Parker, no one is owed politeness. The only people on this website who make the rules are the owners and admins. Outside this private website in the real world no one is free from being offended.
The bigger picture worldwide in our species history is we collectively need a priority shift away from insisting on taboos and walking on eggshells. I do not like the attitude that you can force 7 billion humans to only say nice things all the time.
The civil thing to do is to accept your own comfort level and if someone bothers you that much, ask, but if they don't respond the way you wish, counter, or walk away. But once you have a knowledge of someone's history and you still chose to engage them, it is a bit absurd to expect that other person to conform to you.
Forced politeness is why cartoonists get murdered. I would like to think the west doesn't have to become that to keep the peace.
Now as far as private websites, here and everywhere else, it is really easy to control what you click on and read. Point being, you are responsible for you, no one else. Asking is fine but after that it is on you once you know the history of the other person.
