RE: Trying to Decide Something
April 4, 2015 at 12:17 am
(This post was last modified: April 4, 2015 at 12:29 am by Creed of Heresy.)
Well, I figure I might as well chip my two cents in, and fuck knows I'm probably the last person anyone should ever go to for advice on relationships, but...
...Wait, with that in mind, why AM I chipping in??
Oh, right. Outsider perspective.
Look, I'll be honest, the fact he proposed marriage after two weeks already sets off alarm bells; who does that?! The fact that when you were together all you did was fight endlessly and had lots of falling-outs and that you broke it off because of all the negative things does not help. In fact it makes it much worse.
Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it. To be frank and blunt, at the risk of sounding like a pessimistic dickwad, I don't see where the reason for believing things will be better this time around comes from. Sure, remembering the good times is great and all, but it sounds like there were more bad times than good ones, and inevitably those are going to rear their ugly heads.
I see it playing out thus: You guys both cling to the good things, you get back together, and within a short time, the negatives come surging to the fore again. You end up dejected, feeling worse than before, and a break-up will ensue, and that will make things even worse still.
If it's just to catch up and reminisce...I still wouldn't recommend it. When something ends badly, repeatedly, it's time to let it go and move on. Graves are best left undisturbed, the coffins left in the ground, and the good memories being left as eulogies on the tombstones, lest you taint them with fresh ill ones.
It seems most everyone here thinks this will make you happy.
I do not agree in the slightest. I see this as a disaster in the making.
I hope I'm wrong. You deserve the complete opposite of what I fear might happen.
...Wait, with that in mind, why AM I chipping in??
Oh, right. Outsider perspective.
Look, I'll be honest, the fact he proposed marriage after two weeks already sets off alarm bells; who does that?! The fact that when you were together all you did was fight endlessly and had lots of falling-outs and that you broke it off because of all the negative things does not help. In fact it makes it much worse.
Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it. To be frank and blunt, at the risk of sounding like a pessimistic dickwad, I don't see where the reason for believing things will be better this time around comes from. Sure, remembering the good times is great and all, but it sounds like there were more bad times than good ones, and inevitably those are going to rear their ugly heads.
I see it playing out thus: You guys both cling to the good things, you get back together, and within a short time, the negatives come surging to the fore again. You end up dejected, feeling worse than before, and a break-up will ensue, and that will make things even worse still.
If it's just to catch up and reminisce...I still wouldn't recommend it. When something ends badly, repeatedly, it's time to let it go and move on. Graves are best left undisturbed, the coffins left in the ground, and the good memories being left as eulogies on the tombstones, lest you taint them with fresh ill ones.
It seems most everyone here thinks this will make you happy.
I do not agree in the slightest. I see this as a disaster in the making.
I hope I'm wrong. You deserve the complete opposite of what I fear might happen.
