(April 12, 2015 at 12:05 am)Exian Wrote: Haha Your family does things a little differently than mine. Not showing up is just part of life for us. If you don't make it, you either had a reason, or you didn't feel like coming; both are valid. The only thing that's worthy of passing judgment is holding a grudge.
I guess this also means we don't reschedule reunions for a few members. You make it, you make it- you don't, you don't. What I'm saying is I have no advice for you.Or, the advice I would have wouldn't mean much with your set-up. Different strokes and all.
Well, they made quite an objection to the original date. It could have been a generational thing, except, they're OLD (like me, and everyone else pissed off), it wasn't the younger set messing up the party this occasion.
LOL, they're supposed to know better. The consensus of us old poops is they don't want to issue mea culpa, then fine, they're out.
Several of us (me included) are under the impression in the etiquette realm, they have royally effed up, and an extraordinary gesture (and realize so far, we have nothing) on their part is the only way out of this.
The family usually gets along just fine and sticks together. The last big 'schism' of this magnitude was back in the 60s over grandpa's will. That one resolved in (IIRC) about 18 years, unfortunately, I was a kid when it started, and was working out of state when it resolved, so I don't know any particulars for that one.
As for divorces (and weirdly, there have been damn few in my lifetime) we almost always follow Aune Helen's rule: the rest of the family follows the kids of the divorced couples lead in how we interact with them. That works GREAT. (my cousin Amanda doesn't thinks so, but her kids deemed her the 'problem' and the rest of us followed suit, LOL)
The granting of a pardon is an imputation of guilt, and the acceptance a confession of it.
