RE: Atheism and my girlfriend
January 28, 2009 at 12:49 pm
(This post was last modified: January 28, 2009 at 1:02 pm by LondonLoves.)
Go on the offensive, mate -- it sounds like you're being beaten into a corner. Stop reasoning. Start making vaccuous claims about Jesus (Did you know that instead of a head Jesus had an Orange?), and the apostles (Did you know Thomas was an excellent pastry chef?) and God. Hey, have some visions ("God came to me in a dream and told me that Sex and the City suuuuuuuuks"). Back it all up with extreme overriding arrogance: "I'm right, and you're wrong. The worst thing is that you know i'm right."
I don't agree that an atheist cannot be with a theist. My little (very liberal) Muslim pot of gold is going to marry me inspite of the fact that I rip on Islam and she rips on Atheism. If your girly was confident in her religion she wouldn't need you to share the same view as her and she certainly wouldn't take offence at your views. Engaging in questions such as "why are you Christian, not Jewish etc." ends up in circular discussions starting with phrases like "because the Lord Jesus Christ...". Just avoid that kind of thing. There's absolutely no reason you should want or need to convert her -- it's her belief, let her have it. Relax. Make some jokes. See how it goes. If she can't accept you that's her problem, not yours.
I think a pertinent question is how old you are? When you're young feelings can be very intense. If you and she are young then don't worry too much about it all. One day you'll realise that you didn't want a girl -- you want a WOMAN! Furthermore you'll realise that you don't want a woman with the same interests, ideas and tastes as you. That's boring. You want someone with different ideas, culture and interests and, yes, faith. That's interesting.
One final thing -- if you're dating a hardcore Christian, try to have some consideration for your testosterone. Life is short. You know there ain't no heaven and sex is brilliant fun, so get moving.
I don't agree that an atheist cannot be with a theist. My little (very liberal) Muslim pot of gold is going to marry me inspite of the fact that I rip on Islam and she rips on Atheism. If your girly was confident in her religion she wouldn't need you to share the same view as her and she certainly wouldn't take offence at your views. Engaging in questions such as "why are you Christian, not Jewish etc." ends up in circular discussions starting with phrases like "because the Lord Jesus Christ...". Just avoid that kind of thing. There's absolutely no reason you should want or need to convert her -- it's her belief, let her have it. Relax. Make some jokes. See how it goes. If she can't accept you that's her problem, not yours.
I think a pertinent question is how old you are? When you're young feelings can be very intense. If you and she are young then don't worry too much about it all. One day you'll realise that you didn't want a girl -- you want a WOMAN! Furthermore you'll realise that you don't want a woman with the same interests, ideas and tastes as you. That's boring. You want someone with different ideas, culture and interests and, yes, faith. That's interesting.
One final thing -- if you're dating a hardcore Christian, try to have some consideration for your testosterone. Life is short. You know there ain't no heaven and sex is brilliant fun, so get moving.
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