I don't care about bible contradictions.

[Drich]

No. God gives answers based on our ablity to comprehend. As our comprehension matures so too does our responsibility and understanding.

This is also true with you, unless you just like being an A-hole to small children.

The problem is we like to fancy ourselves as well learned adults, when in fact most of us view the world as a child would. It is only when we humble ourselves before God and approach Him as Small Children does our ablity to comprehend Him and the things of this world increase.

Not a good analogy.  Let take a good child/parent topic like where do do babies come from?  Parents may have a fable like the stork or under cabbage leaves but the problem is really parental discomfort not the child's ability to understand.  Wiser parents may tell some but not all of the truth beginning with things like they grow in mommy's tummy and adding details as the child grows. 

But god appears to tell people absolutely opposing things.  It's not a growing understanding, it's telling one person that his homosexuality is god's plan for him and that it's perfectly fine for him to marry his boyfriend, and telling another person that homosexuality is the worst of all sins ever under any circumstances.  One of these persons is not talking to the same god.  Their ability to comprehend has nothing to do with it.  The truth of the matter is that people who consult god usually find that god agrees with them.