What IS good, and how do we determine it?

[Nope]

... you may never have seen the additional passages from Deuteronomy that show God requiring Hebrew men to take these women into their homes as wives with all of the rights, privileges and so forth that any married woman would expect.

You just do not get it. It is still rape. If I go kidnap that cutie down the street and get a Vegas wedding, treat her well, give her all the privileges of a modern wife and more, I am still a kidnapper and a rapist.

I am confused by Randy's answer.

Randy are you saying that a kidnapped woman should be expected to have sex with the man if the kidnapper says they are married?

Randy, do you believe there is such a thing as marital rape? You might have missed my question.