What IS good, and how do we determine it?

[Tonus]

I apologize for "switching." I don't believe God ever did condone rape (I don't believe that story at all), so to me, all that matters is whether people believe He did. As long as they don't believe He did, then I don't care about the details.

In Numbers 31 god at the very least condones it. It is worth noting that god's instructions were simply to "take vengeance" on the Midianites (verse 1) and leaves the details to the Israelites. They kill all the men and take the women and children as prisoners. It is Moses who tells them to kill every prisoner with the exception of the virgin girls, who they are instructed to "save for [them]selves" (verse 18). The total of women who were thus "saved" is 32,000. Considering that number and the listed numbers of livestock, the total who were massacred was at least in the high six figures.

I suppose that some will claim that these girls were lucky, because they weren't killed... they 'only' got to watch their homeland ravaged, their families slaughtered, after which they became the personal sex toy of one of the men who participated in that atrocity. But that level of moral relativity turns Yahweh into a very different god than the one you think you are worshiping, IMO.