What IS good, and how do we determine it?

[Jenny A]

Huggy, let me make certain I understand you.  You believe that the young girls and women who saw their villages massacred and were taken captives by the Hebrews consented to marry and have sex with the killers of their families?

Let me ask you the same question that I asked Randy. If a group of American soldiers massacred an entire Middle Eastern village and brought home the virgins for their wives, would you consider the soldiers rapists? It is a simple question.

No need to go all hypothetical since this very scenario has taken place.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/War_bride

War bride is a term used in reference to wartime marriages between soldiers and foreigners, especially–but not exclusively–during World War I and World War II.

One of the largest and best documented war bride phenomenons is American soldiers marrying German "Fräuleins" after World War II. By 1949, over 20,000 German war brides had emigrated to the US.[1] Furthermore, it is estimated that there are "... 15,000 Australian women who married American servicemen based in Australia during World War II and moved to the US to be with their husbands"

No the soldiers aren't "rapists"....

That is the most disingenuous comparison I've seen in a while and I've seen some doozies on the forum of late.  The women the Hebrews married were taken captive and hauled away from their homes after all of the men in their village were killed.   Then the Hebrews married them.  Consent?  Sure, after all marriage, slavery, or death is a choice, right?  Kinda like your money or your life.

In extreme contrast, the U.S. war brides were not forced to marry servicemen, they did not immigrate until after they had decided to marry servicemen, and they certainly weren't shipped stateside and told they could either agree to marry servicemen or starve in a foreign country.  Nor were servicemen encouraged to take war brides.  The U.S. military and immigration policy was strongly against enemy war brides.  Soldiers marrying Japanese and and German women faced significant hurdles in getting the marriages recognized and their wives home.  Without the full cooperation and even determination of the wives it couldn't have been done. http://www.americainwwii.com/articles/war-brides/

Australian women, who in case you missed out on the WWII section in your high school history class were allies not captives and it's hard to imagine in what way they could have been coerced into marrying servicemen.  The Vietnamese and South Korean women were also allies, not captives.   And again, it was not easy to get the wives home.  And without the wives' full cooperation it simply couldn't be done.