What IS good, and how do we determine it?

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You don't scream obscenities at me, Jenny.

You're proof that it IS possible to behave in a mature manner even in an atheist forum.

Yes, but CA ignores me.  Would you rather we ignore you Randy?  I'd rather CA member swore at me and replied rather than simply talked around me.

As to obscenities, I tend to reserve them for hammers I just hit my thumb with rather than people, although in extremity I do use them on people. Coming out of my cute little mouth (and I do wish I were elegant and beautiful rather than cute) it tends to have great impact.  But that impact would be lost if I swore like a sailor all the time.

However, I fail to see the real difference between calling people twisted and calling them a mother fucker.  The sentiment is the same.

I am from the south. There are people who can make the phrases, I will pray for you and bless your heart be very negative. I would rather be cussed than to have someone use passive aggressive type, cowardly, back handed insults at me.