(December 3, 2012 at 9:11 am)thesummerqueen Wrote: I'm calling you arrogant because I personally find it arrogant to come in and say everyone should act the way you think they should. That's my personal opinion, not something that has to be backed up. That's because it's subjective. Just like "abuse".
I've actually suffered physical and emotional abuse. Someone calling me a twat for my personal opinion, which might be abhorrent to them, ain't it. On the other hand, someone who had never actually been abused might find the name-calling absolutely upsetting. If you're calling for people to re-examine themselves and have more empathy for others then fine, I'm all for it. But it sounds too much like you're trying to make a fence around a crumbling pile of sand.
And, I don't care if you care if I find you arrogant. If I were actually trying to hurt your feelings I'd have gotten to know you first and fucked you up in the worst way possible mentally. You know. Abusively.
At the risk of being accused (unjustifiably) of belittling the abuse you suffered, please show me how you can justify verbal abuse without tripping over your own right to not be verbally abused.
Just because worse things happen doesn't justify lesser things. That is arbitrary and the framing of the logic could allow anyone except the worst person in all history to feel satisfied they have acted well simply because they have examples of worse behaviour they can point to.
