This is a hard one. My son is 6 and we have never spanked him. My step children are older and have been spanked. They are all good kids.
Negative reinforcement is a faster way to teach in my experience, but is more painful for everyone involved. Positive reinforcement takes longer and may not condition against all undesirable behaviors.
I think spanking should be used to get attention, not to cause pain. A light "spank" can bring the parent to the attention of the child better than a raised voice can sometimes.
I hope the two of you can come to a reasonable agreement. the fact that you are bringing it up for discussion is a good indication that you will make the right decision.
Negative reinforcement is a faster way to teach in my experience, but is more painful for everyone involved. Positive reinforcement takes longer and may not condition against all undesirable behaviors.
I think spanking should be used to get attention, not to cause pain. A light "spank" can bring the parent to the attention of the child better than a raised voice can sometimes.
I hope the two of you can come to a reasonable agreement. the fact that you are bringing it up for discussion is a good indication that you will make the right decision.