To spank or not to spank?

[downbeatplumb]

Sure. If you enjoy being resented, and an abuser.

Your kids are not dogs. You can talk to them and explain why they shouldn't do things. 'Because I'll beat the shit out of you' may stop them now, but it won't teach them anything but blind obedience.

There is an age when you can't reason with a child, they are like a non-communicative Mr Bean bumbling through the world wondering vaguely what would happen if they ran off the cliff. There are also children who are bundles of rage lashing out and wilfully doing the opposite of what you say. In the words of batmans butler "some people just want to see the world burn" our Dr said it was just a phase but we seriously considered having him taken into care. Our other two kids have never acted anything like this so we wondered what did we do differently with him? the answer is nothing, it's just him. He was, in his formative years, a bit of a shit every now and then.