I haven't seen any of you talk about the pleasure of picking out your own whooping stick. (if I missed it sorry) This was my Grandpa's solution. As kids we spent time with him each summer. If you picked out a switch that was to small (and I did the first time) he'd break it in the first swing on a chair and tell you to go out and get another.
Now the psych part began. How big of a switch do I get? One big enough not to break but one not to big to inflict more damage. If I get one that's green it won't break as easy. One with no branch ends to gouge into the skin. Some times it would take me an hour to decide. When I came back with what I thought was the right one, one that he would approve of, he would test it on a chair. If the test worked (didn't break) I typically only got one more swat and then the "well, was it worth it?". Crafty old SOB. Never tried bringing him a whole fireplace log. Wonder how that would have gone over.
Mom dealt out the spankings at home. Never that hard, just enough to get our attention. Maybe cry but never leave any marks. The spankings stopped when I told her she better hit me some more cause I didn't get it yet and laughed (maybe 10yrs). Big mistake. Then the taking away of privileges started. A far worse punishment for me.
BTW, never hit my child. Psych works much more effectively.
My dogs? Never hit. Typically, by the time I'd get close enough to the dog to even think about taking a swing to correct the behavior it would be to late. When they say dogs live in the moment, measure that in seconds/split seconds. If I would have hit them it would have been pointless. They'd never tie the offense to the punishment in their head. So, what do you do to train a dog, off leash (we have off leash events/activities), to not chase cars? Chasing cars often equals dead dog. Answer, shock collar. I know some are going to say that's cruel but that's through ignorance, either from the user or observer. The shock is turned to the lowest setting that gets their attention without causing pain. I tried it on myself. It's uncomfortable and startling but not painful. Plus, in that split second moment you can tie the behavior to the consequence. Took 1 hour to stop the chasing. He still wears it when the car traffic is heavy next to the event area but we've never had to use it again. Probably have to use it on our new female as she likes to fence fight and her intention is to kill. Have to wait until after the puppies.
Now the psych part began. How big of a switch do I get? One big enough not to break but one not to big to inflict more damage. If I get one that's green it won't break as easy. One with no branch ends to gouge into the skin. Some times it would take me an hour to decide. When I came back with what I thought was the right one, one that he would approve of, he would test it on a chair. If the test worked (didn't break) I typically only got one more swat and then the "well, was it worth it?". Crafty old SOB. Never tried bringing him a whole fireplace log. Wonder how that would have gone over.
Mom dealt out the spankings at home. Never that hard, just enough to get our attention. Maybe cry but never leave any marks. The spankings stopped when I told her she better hit me some more cause I didn't get it yet and laughed (maybe 10yrs). Big mistake. Then the taking away of privileges started. A far worse punishment for me.
BTW, never hit my child. Psych works much more effectively.
My dogs? Never hit. Typically, by the time I'd get close enough to the dog to even think about taking a swing to correct the behavior it would be to late. When they say dogs live in the moment, measure that in seconds/split seconds. If I would have hit them it would have been pointless. They'd never tie the offense to the punishment in their head. So, what do you do to train a dog, off leash (we have off leash events/activities), to not chase cars? Chasing cars often equals dead dog. Answer, shock collar. I know some are going to say that's cruel but that's through ignorance, either from the user or observer. The shock is turned to the lowest setting that gets their attention without causing pain. I tried it on myself. It's uncomfortable and startling but not painful. Plus, in that split second moment you can tie the behavior to the consequence. Took 1 hour to stop the chasing. He still wears it when the car traffic is heavy next to the event area but we've never had to use it again. Probably have to use it on our new female as she likes to fence fight and her intention is to kill. Have to wait until after the puppies.
I don't have an anger problem, I have an idiot problem.
