To spank or not to spank?

[Aroura]

 -Some- spankers are people who have witnessed their children, whom they dearly love, doing terrible, deleterious things, often more than once, and having failed to correct that behavior by a host of others means have decided to employ the distasteful but, in their experience, effective means of spanking their child, not beating them with objects or fashioning tools with which to strip their skin away...for behaviors that have and would otherwise continue.

Children copy, an unavoidable truth. If they are doing 'terrible' things, they learnt them from someone and punishing by violence is not teaching them any sort of valuable lesson to carry into adulthood.

There's always a better, intelligent and more productive way to inform someone (child or adult) that their behaviour is wrong rather than smack them round the arse/legs/face and say "now you've learnt your lesson". It's lazy and if you have to resort to that sort of shit you shouldn't have children.

Although I 100% agree that violence I not the answer, the truth is some people are born with different brain wiring, and may act out or who show negative behavior that is not learned. I don't know about this case, but I hesitate to judge someone who's shoes I have not walk a mile in, so to speak.

Every parent makes mistakes, but kids are not just copies of their parents either.

Kids with learning disabilities, for instance, especially subtle ones that may be going unnoticed, may act out of anger and frustration repeatedly and even violently, even if they have the kindest parents and caregivers.