(March 26, 2018 at 3:05 pm)Minimalist Wrote: Sometimes I wonder if we aren't doing more harm than good by categorizing people like this. People used to simply be "different." Was that such a bad thing? The word wasn't even coined until 1911 and then only to refer to schizophrenics. Now it has exploded to the point where the scale is so vast that it seems to be everywhere. They pump kids full of ritalin or other drugs at the drop of a hat these days because they can't sit still in class and the schools hate that so they are willing co-conspirators with the drug industry because they want obedience. I don't know. It seems to me that someone is making a whole lot of money off of this.
I'm probably just being a cranky old fart, again.
Anyway, Hammy. As far as I'm concerned you're fine.
I’m sorry, but it certainly was a bad thing when kids were getting in trouble for not getting the right grades, or for freaking out in certain social settings, or for doing things the wrong way when they just couldn’t. If my son was placed in a regular classroom and his specific needs were ignored, he’d be miserable and his quality of life would be minimal. If I didn’t understand that I need to communicate differently with him, he would have never progressed as much as he has. He needed early childhood intervention and he needs extra attention and assistance. Just different isn’t enough and it’s unfair for them. Maybe someone is making a lot of money, so? So do doctors and we need them. My son had a dentist appointment today and I took him to his dad’s house afterwards. I had to come home and sleep for two hours, because it drained me. Try explaining to the dental assistant that he doesn’t understand if you use clever phrases like, “You’ll love it to death!” He cried thinking he was going to die. Try explaining that I prepared him for that visit for days and it was ruined by the assistant losing her patience and bringing in two more. A crowded room of strangers? Try explaining that he doesn’t understand so many instructions grouped together and you need to say one at a time and wait to make sure he understands before jumping to the next. Try watching your son being scolded because he won’t stay still when her hand is on his back and it’s freaking him out. He doesn’t understand you and you’re expecting him to cooperate? When people know there’s a condition and they’re informed, it can cause a dental appointment to go smoothly. Knowing is important. Just different isn’t enough. His dad says he’s back to not talking at his house. His silence can last a day, weeks, months. That dental assistant probably went home bitching about the annoying little kid who’s six, but acts like he’s three and his mom doesn't see that he just needs more discipline. Meanwhile, I'll be cleaning up the mess.
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