Age and relationships

[CleanShavenJesus]

Wait, so she won't be 18 for ten more weeks? Eh.......

Age difference doesn't matter in the long run, though.

[Minimalist]

You reminded me of this joke.

A cop is patrolling Lover's Lane when he sees the strangest thing. A young couple is sitting in a car, the guy in the front and the girl in the back. The guy is reading a magazine and the girl appears to be knitting.

He stops the patrol car and walks over to knock on the young man's window. He rolls the window down.

"Yes officer?"

"I have to ask you, what are you doing?"

"Well sir, I am reading a magazine."

"What about the young lady in the backseat?"

The young man turns to look behind him. "Well, I think she is knitting a pullover sweater."

"How old are you young man?" the officer asks.

"I am 25 Officer."

"And the girl?"

The young man looks at his watch. "Well, she'll be 18 in 11 minutes."

[Doubting Thomas]

Admittedly it is a little creepy when the age gap is like 40+ years.

Only if the guy is 55.

[popeyespappy]

Five years may not make much difference now, but think of the future. When you are eighty she is only going to be seventy five.

[c172]

I'm 37, and I admit, I find attraction in 18-25/f's still, and tend to come across girls (and guys) of that age group due to the fact I am on a college campus 2x a week. But, as much as that's true, it may be a case of "Be careful what you wish for, as it may come true". Age gaps to some extent are fine. Maybe even preferable. But there's a line where it gets uncomfortable.For the subjects and those around them.

[My imaginary friend is GOD]

Well, just be careful about her being under 18. I don't know what the age of consent is where you live, but if it's 18 I suggest you wait for sex until she is actually of age. Even if things are going well now, she could at any point in the future accuse you of statutory rape, and that's a road you don't want to go down.

[rexbeccarox]

When I was 18, my boyfriend was 23. My mom wasn't thrilled, but there was no problem other than that... I do have to admit, though, I never had sex with that boyfriend. Well, until about seven years later, but that's another story.

Now, I'm 36 and the guy I'm seeing is 30. Not a big deal at all, at least not to me. I've decided age really means nothing once you're an adult. Quick little anecdote: I was single on a trip with my sister in Mexico a few months ago, and I had a flirtation with a very beautiful man over the week we were there. Our ages never entered the conversation, which I realized after the vacation was over. I look back and wonder why. It's always seemed like something people talk about when they're interested in each other, but does it really have to be? I mean, I realize the OP is dealing with legal issues in dating someone so young, but once she's 18, I don't think it matters at all if two people are compatible.

[festive1]

From what I've seen in life, it is her that should worry about your maturity level!

(Full disclosure...my wife still thinks I'm infantile at 40. I obviously disagree with her, the poopy-head.)

Naw...go for it.

This.
I'm now 32 and my husband is 53... He is still Peter Pan, takes life as it comes, refuses to make plans (aside from having a retirement fund and college funds for the kids), but I like that about him It balances out my neurotic tendencies.

[Something completely different]

This.
I'm now 32 and my husband is 53... He is still Peter Pan, takes life as it comes, refuses to make plans (aside from having a retirement fund and college funds for the kids), but I like that about him It balances out my neurotic tendencies.

I only know to good how much hell my grandmother on my mothers side gave my father because of the 10 year age difference.

Is it like that in your family aswell?

[festive1]

Oh my dad attempted to pick a fight with me on my wedding day because he found out how old my husband is. Didn't work, he was deflected by my mom's sister. And if he had a problem maybe he should have met the guy I'm marrying before the wedding...
My mom didn't have a problem at all. I just told her I was dating someone. She met him before she found out the age difference and well before we ever talked about getting married (in fairness my husband doesn't look his age). She didn't care about the age difference once she saw us together... She says she could see he loved me and was good to me and that's all that matters. She's right.