Our server costs ~$56 per month to run. Please consider donating or becoming a Patron to help keep the site running. Help us gain new members by following us on Twitter and liking our page on Facebook!
Current time: January 5, 2025, 4:24 pm
Atheist Forums › Science › Life Sciences v
W.W.J.D.

Thread Rating:
  • 0 Vote(s) - 0 Average
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
Thread Modes
W.W.J.D.
ShaMan Offline
Cactus Whisperer
Religious Views: Not an atheist
Posts: 2471
Threads: 21
Joined: December 7, 2013
Reputation: 43
#1
Question 
W.W.J.D.
April 3, 2014 at 2:34 pm
What - Will - Jim - Do?

My best friend Jim shared with me today that his wife confessed to cheating on him. She explained that she had a very brief affair and that it was over. She told him that she feels terrible and would like another chance to show him she still loves him very much. She sobbed as she tried to explain to him why she thought she had done it, and how it had affected her. Jim asked me for my advice - he wanted to know how to respond to her... I responded immediately.

What advice would you give "Jim".
Find
Reply
Jackalope Away
Elon Musk owes me money
*******
Religious Views: Absent
Posts: 30980
Threads: 204
Joined: July 19, 2011
Reputation: 141
#2
RE: W.W.J.D.
April 3, 2014 at 2:40 pm
If it were me, I would want to try to work things out.
Find
Reply
Tonus Offline
Senior Member
****
Religious Views: Atheist
Posts: 7167
Threads: 12
Joined: March 14, 2013
Reputation: 72
#3
RE: W.W.J.D.
April 3, 2014 at 2:45 pm
[Image: gps-ankle.jpg]
"Well, evolution is a theory. It is also a fact. And facts and theories are different things, not rungs in a hierarchy of increasing certainty. Facts are the world's data. Theories are structures of ideas that explain and interpret facts. Facts don't go away when scientists debate rival theories to explain them. Einstein's theory of gravitation replaced Newton's in this century, but apples didn't suspend themselves in midair, pending the outcome. And humans evolved from ape- like ancestors whether they did so by Darwin's proposed mechanism or by some other yet to be discovered."

-Stephen Jay Gould
Find
Reply
Minimalist Offline Donators
Go Blow Jesus Out Your Ass
*****
Religious Views: Fuck It
Posts: 69247
Threads: 3759
Joined: August 2, 2009
Reputation: 259
#4
RE: W.W.J.D.
April 3, 2014 at 2:50 pm
Insufficient info.

Kids. Finances. Ages. History.

It is the ultimate personal decision, though. Can you ever trust someone again?
Find
Reply
ShaMan Offline
Cactus Whisperer
Religious Views: Not an atheist
Posts: 2471
Threads: 21
Joined: December 7, 2013
Reputation: 43
#5
RE: W.W.J.D.
April 3, 2014 at 3:03 pm
(April 3, 2014 at 2:50 pm)Minimalist Wrote: Insufficient info.

Kids. Finances. Ages. History.
Two kids - grown.

Both are financially well off.

Late 40's.

Been married for 26 years.
Find
Reply
Losty Offline
LastPoet’s jerkoff #4
*****
Religious Views: Pastafarian
Posts: 28389
Threads: 226
Joined: March 24, 2014
Reputation: 185
#6
RE: W.W.J.D.
April 3, 2014 at 3:23 pm
(April 3, 2014 at 2:34 pm)ShaMan Wrote: What - Will - Jim - Do?

My best friend Jim shared with me today that his wife confessed to cheating on him. She explained that she had a very brief affair and that it was over. She told him that she feels terrible and would like another chance to show him she still loves him very much. She sobbed as she tried to explain to him why she thought she had done it, and how it had affected her. Jim asked me for my advice - he wanted to know how to respond to her... I responded immediately.

What advice would you give "Jim".

Ummm I would need to know a lot more about Jim and his wife I think. Cheating is a silly word to me. I don't see having sex with other people as that big of a deal. What is a big deal is lying or breaking trust/promises.

Jim has to decide first is he going to be able to live with this and he needs to be honest with himself about this. If he says yes when it's no that is unfair to himself and his wife. If the answer is no then next steps are kind of obvious, so let's say it's yes.

Jim has a lot of discussion to have with his wife. Is she happy and is he? Are they missing some key factor in their sex life? Does she desire to have more people involved in their sex life? Does he think he can live with that?

I don't have any experience in this area, but I do have outsider experience (like watching this sort of thing happen to people I know). In my opinion, the best way to avoid "cheating" is to be open and honest. Don't deny yourself or your partner things they desire sexually. If you're going to have sex with other people, do it together or at least discuss it and make it a safe acceptable open thing....well that's what I think.
(August 21, 2017 at 11:31 pm)KevinM1 Wrote: "I'm not a troll"
Religious Views: He gay

0/10

Hammy Wrote:and we also have a sheep on our bed underneath as well
Find
Reply
Minimalist Offline Donators
Go Blow Jesus Out Your Ass
*****
Religious Views: Fuck It
Posts: 69247
Threads: 3759
Joined: August 2, 2009
Reputation: 259
#7
RE: W.W.J.D.
April 3, 2014 at 4:06 pm
(April 3, 2014 at 3:03 pm)ShaMan Wrote:
(April 3, 2014 at 2:50 pm)Minimalist Wrote: Insufficient info.

Kids. Finances. Ages. History.
Two kids - grown.

Both are financially well off.

Late 40's.

Been married for 26 years.

That's a lot to throw away, then.
Find
Reply
KUSA Offline
Senior Member
****
Religious Views: I have unseen the light
Posts: 4664
Threads: 100
Joined: November 22, 2013
Reputation: 39
#8
RE: W.W.J.D.
April 3, 2014 at 4:17 pm
I think Jim deserves a treat of his own. A little strange to even things up.
Find
Reply
The Valkyrie Offline
The last smile some will see...
*******
Religious Views: Time to end them
Posts: 35356
Threads: 205
Joined: August 13, 2012
Reputation: 146
#9
RE: W.W.J.D.
April 3, 2014 at 4:22 pm
Difficult to judge.

From the background I'd say it was a one off - a mistake.

Everyone's entitled to a mistake once in a while.

If she was a serial cheater I'd be making different comments.

But he should forgive and move on.

Playing Cluedo with my mum while I was at Uni:

"You did WHAT?  With WHO?  WHERE???"
Find
Reply
Nine Offline
Bee-ad
****
Religious Views: Queen Bee
Posts: 4344
Threads: 43
Joined: February 21, 2012
Reputation: 64
#10
RE: W.W.J.D.
April 3, 2014 at 6:07 pm
Seems like half of my relatives are involved in some kind of affair and it seems to always be a complete clusterfuck.
Find
Reply


Atheist Forums › Science › Life Sciences v
W.W.J.D.



Users browsing this thread: 2 Guest(s)