Bullying

[Losty]

Regardless of how you would have or should have handled it as a child, as an adult threatening a child is certainly not the smartest way to handle the situation.

[Napoléon]

Regardless of how you would have or should have handled it as a child, as an adult threatening a child is certainly not the smartest way to handle the situation.

When my dad threatened to kick the shit out of one of the people bullying me in school, he never bullied me again. Sure my dad could of got into trouble, and he's lucky he didn't, whether it's smart isn't really the deal for me, it's whether it stops the twat who's bullying you from bullying you.

Props to blackout for sticking up for that kid. I'm not advocating an adult beating up a child or anything, but sometimes if the bully is put in their place the bullying stops. S'all I'm saying.

[naimless]

i think op has the wrong idea

i generally didn't let bullies near me but there was one unavoidable occasion where a guy in the year above me kicked my ball on the roof on purpose

it was quite funny looking back now, but at the time i was annoyed and powerless

he had a gang of older cunts with him, and was potentially affiliated with paramilitaries outside school as well

anyway some supervisor/teacher person saw the incident and told him to apologise to me and buy me a new ball - this is the role of the op in his story

i didn't accept the guy's apology because i knew the only reason he did it was because he got caught

i also just walked away and blanked him because fuck him, he's a fucking cunt

anyway my main regret is that the teacher/supervisor person was there to see it and tried to help the situation

my main regret is that i didn't smash his fucking face in, and the face of any other cunt who stepped to me

because op, in life there are no guardian angels keeping all of the bullies in line all of the time

any kid getting the shit kicked out of him or picked on just needs to man the fuck up and unleash a rage

hit any cunt twice as hard

bullies only bully because they were bullied and the cycle only stops when they hit back the person who originally bullied them

[The Valkyrie]

I was suspended for a few days for dealing with a bully.

She came and literally pushed me off a tennis court that I was using and then started pushing me around in front of her friends.

I wrapped a tennis racquet around her head - sideways.

- Suspended
- Pissed off parents
- Never bullied again

[Dystopia]

I was bullied in school, and it would feel good to beat the crap out of bullies, but that's not the most responsible way to go about it.

What would you suggest then? Telling the teacher?

You know, I used to think somewhat like this. "Just ignore them" I'd say to myself. Violence isn't the answer, that old cliché. But you know what? I honestly think this line of thinking doesn't help shit. My nephew is in secondary school and he regularly gets bullied. He ignores it and it doesn't stop, if anything it just gets worse. Telling the teacher isn't going to do anything, the bully will just have even more of a vendetta against you if you tell on him. If his posse even gets so much of a wiff that you've told on the bully, you're in for an even worse time.

Eventually the bullies will just do something you can't ignore. It starts with the typical name-calling and psychological bullying, but it eventually leads to them messing with your stuff, hitting you etc.

Honestly, if I could go back now I wouldn't just sit and ignore the kind of shit I used to. I'd knock the bully the fuck out. Part of the problem of why kids get bullied is they're too used to being the victim, they're weak. People don't like to admit it but it's true. They're scared of getting into a fight, or getting beat up. If you just fight the guy bullying you, even if you don't win, chances are that guy will stop giving you shit. Obviously it doesn't work in every case, but I think the main thing bullies do is look for people who they perceive as weaker than them, or people who are easy targets. Just ignoring them and letting them give you shit just tells the bully you're easy pickings IMHO.

Bullying won't stop from 'better education' or any of that shit. Kids are assholes. They always will be. Only way you stop from being a victim is if you stop acting like one, grow some balls and stand up to the asshole giving you crap.

I agree partially with you but when you have 6 guys kicking your ass it becomes though to defend yourself, trust me

PS - I wasn't going to kick anyone's ass - But I know how a kid reacts to an older person's warning and I know kids gets scared easily, I wasn't actually considering beating anyone, I wouldn't beat my former bullies - I'm happy they are either dead, in rehab clinics or unemployed - Call me an evil person, it's my human instinct. I don't wish them bad things directly though

[Napoléon]

I agree partially with you but when you have 6 guys kicking your ass it becomes though to defend yourself, trust me

Ofcourse I never suggested otherwise. I was once in a situation where I was surrounded by 30 chavs trying to get me to fight some other kid who didn't like me very much. It was one of the most scary things I've ever had happen to me. There's obviously certain situations where you'd just be plain stupid to stand up for yourself, that was one of them, but in these situations there's not very much you can do. You have to try and not look weak but at the same time not provoke the pricks trying to provoke you.

[Dystopia]

I was suspended for a few days for dealing with a bully.

She came and literally pushed me off a tennis court that I was using and then started pushing me around in front of her friends.

I wrapped a tennis racquet around her head - sideways.

- Suspended
- Pissed off parents
- Never bullied again

I did some similar things, school got pissed, my mum threatened to sue the school as she always did, things cooled down, later I became friends with some guys who could pack a punch, they were cool people, never bullied me, I guess that scared of the bullies. After I got into highschool I went to a higher class school (public) and never got bullied.

[Chad32]

Honestly I don't know what I would suggest. If you're tough enough, you should probably hit back and hope that the bully doesn't just come back with his friends and beat the crap out of you. If you were like me, a timid wimp who just wanted to mind his own business, I have no concrete answer. I never solved my bully problem. I escaped it by graduating from school, and on the rare occasion someone actually started messing with me at work, telling a manager fixed the problem real fast.

If you're better at making friends with people than I was, probably get a posse to hang out with during school hours. Maybe make friends with a big guy that will scare the bullies away.

I tried ignoring them. I tried telling on them. I even tried fighting back once or twice. It sucks. Not everyone can be brave and aggressive and tough.

[The Valkyrie]

Honestly I don't know what I would suggest. If you're tough enough, you should probably hit back and hope that the bully doesn't just come back with his friends and beat the crap out of you. If you were like me, a timid wimp who just wanted to mind his own business, I have no concrete answer. I never solved my bully problem. I escaped it by graduating from school, and on the rare occasion someone actually started messing with me at work, telling a manager fixed the problem real fast.

If you're better at making friends with people than I was, probably get a posse to hang out with during school hours. Maybe make friends with a big guy that will scare the bullies away.

I tried ignoring them. I tried telling on them. I even tried fighting back once or twice. It sucks. Not everyone can be brave and aggressive and tough.

I usually tried to ignore/walk away/mediate as is my usual nature.

However, I also have a REALLY bad temper and sometimes I just snap.

Example above.