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RE: She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me
December 31, 2014 at 6:22 pm
(December 31, 2014 at 5:42 pm)Exian Wrote: ...I don't want to increase the chance of someone getting to know me well enough to find out they don't like me.
There's someone for everyone out there. The only way you'll find that person is to go for volume. I can't count how many men and women I had to date before I finally found the right person.
Hope you don't have to kiss so many frogs.
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RE: She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me
December 31, 2014 at 6:28 pm
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(December 31, 2014 at 8:47 am)alpha male Wrote: Take care of your wife and she'll likely suck the life out of you in a good way.
Beats offending god by spilling it upon the ground.
(December 31, 2014 at 3:53 pm)Losty Wrote: "all guys are jerks anyway" this is not true. Admit your mistakes when you make them. Forgetting your wife's birthday is a jerk thing to do. Doesn't necessarily make you a jerk in general. All men are not jerks.
We need more context do you forget a lot of things .. like your address or your own name? If so, you're likely to forget her anyway and her birthday is the least of your worries.
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RE: She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me
December 31, 2014 at 6:33 pm
(December 31, 2014 at 3:03 am)psychoslice Wrote: Well, this is what happens when you want to spend your whole life with someone else, you just suffer.
Psycho,
This really only applies when both personalities are in the same head.
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RE: She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me
January 1, 2015 at 8:03 pm
(December 30, 2014 at 9:22 pm)JesusChristLover Wrote: My wife keeps sucking the life out of me. I forgot to wish her Happy Birthday and she went all nuts, to the point of going for a night out with another man (who is apparently just a friend).
Just a few weeks ago, she went on full rage because I forgot to book tickets for a movie.
All this drama started a few months ago when I left for a week's vacation to New Zealand with my buddies.
What should I do?
*PS: She is not cheating with me - that I am fully convinced.
Ok, it seems from your wife's perspective, you went wrong on the following counts:
1) You forgot to wish her Happy Birthday, 2) you forgot to book tickets for a movie, and 3) you left for a week's vacation to New Zealand with your buddies.
Whether or not what you've done justifies the rage that she's exhibiting in response, you do come off as a neglectful husband. What you should do is actually be there for her if you want the relationship to work between you two.
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RE: She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me
January 1, 2015 at 10:52 pm
(December 30, 2014 at 9:22 pm)JesusChristLover Wrote: My wife keeps sucking the life out of me. I forgot to wish her Happy Birthday and she went all nuts, to the point of going for a night out with another man (who is apparently just a friend).
Just a few weeks ago, she went on full rage because I forgot to book tickets for a movie.
All this drama started a few months ago when I left for a week's vacation to New Zealand with my buddies.
What should I do?
*PS: She is not cheating with me - that I am fully convinced.
You've received some good advice here and some of it can be thrown in the trash and I believe everyone here knows what I'm referring to.
First of all how old are you and how long have you been married, these are things that would help us better understand your situation without prying.
In general you need to set down and talk to her with seriousness, but the very first thing you need to do is apologize, you messed-up, it's up to you to get the ball rolling. You both need to want this to work, if you don't there is trouble ahead. If things go good in your conversations, you should send her some flowers, don't be cheap, you took an expensive vacation, spend money on some beautiful roses or her favorite flowers, make sure there's a card from you when the flowers are sent. Yes I mean have them delivered, she will appreciate the extra thought and it will giver her time to think about what you write in the card, before you get home. If she works make sure you send them there, a lady likes for her friends to see she is special. If you forget your anniversary you are in trouble, do not get behind that 8 ball. Make the anniversary very special, she's not going to forget what you did very soon, this one is from experience.
Here's the real deal for you, the very first thing you have to do is evaluate how you feel about her, if she's not the most important part of your life then you have a problem and need to decide what you need to do, make sure in your own heart you married her because you love her, to many marry because they lust for each other, that want make a marriage work, in the end it's all about give and take from both of you. However at this time it's about you giving, she's mad because you have left her out and I do not blame her. I'm not even going to suggest the God part of your marriage, you know how that is to be, you are to lover her as Christ loves the church. Remember love is a powerful emotion for humans and people react differently when in love, you have to be understanding to her needs, if you do not you'll be doing all the house work if you get my meaning.
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RE: She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me
January 2, 2015 at 3:37 am
Only you can answer your question, if your not connected to your wife anymore, then maybe its time to move on, its better to move on than to pretend to love each other and live in misery.
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RE: She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me
January 2, 2015 at 5:58 am
(This post was last modified: January 2, 2015 at 5:59 am by Creed of Heresy.)
I guarantee you with 100% certainty: This "just a friend" guy remembered her birthday, booked tickets to the movie she wanted to see, and I ALSO guarantee with that same degree of ecstasy that she is whimpering his name and clawing at his back as he, in all likelihood, is fucking her in a way she absolutely loves, because he took the time to find out exactly what it is that she enjoys most, which I ALSO guarantee is the way you, given what you said, never bothered to discover. I'm gonna go out on a limb here, and make a huge assumption, that you pound out your white lightening into her with a constant determination to do it ASAP, and that THAT guy is probably taking a good solid hour to satiate her before he lets himself go.
And you would deserve every last moment of that "betrayal." You know why?
Because if I, with my neurochemically-compromised memory, can remember my room-mate's birthday, you have no fucking excuse whatsoever for not remembering the birthday of the woman you swore to devote yourself to and love until death parts your union.
Like Min said as the first reply; put down your fucking bible and pay attention to your wife, because as it stands, you're a signature away from losing her to someone who is giving her the attention she deserves. She's not only a woman, she's your woman. You supposedly loved her enough to put two rings onto her finger, but it seems to me like you know more biblical verses than you do the happenings going on in the life of the woman whom you share your bed with every night!
The fact you don't even consider that you might be the problem (pro-tip: YOU ARE.) and, by the very title of this thread itself, are accusing her of being the problem speaks volumes about who you are as a husband.
Send your wife my way. I'll show her how a real man treats a woman, and won't she be in for a shock when the one between us who is a real man happens to be one of those awful dirty godless hell-bound heathens, eh?
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RE: She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me
January 2, 2015 at 8:23 am
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Don't hold back, Creed, tell him what you really think!
The fool hath said in his heart, There is a God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good.
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RE: She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me
January 2, 2015 at 9:18 am
Like Losty said, talk to your wife. Admit that you were an ass and didn't treat her in a considerate manner. Most importantly, listen to her.
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RE: She Keeps Sucking The Life Out of Me
January 2, 2015 at 9:43 am
Or don't. Who cares? Maybe you would rather be out with your buddies. Maybe her birthday just isn't important to you. Maybe.....
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