Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...

[Jesster]

CIJS- You literally get mad and mean and start fights every single time I don't want to have sex. You also bring up the fight unprovoked when you're not trying to have sex and you heavily imply and sometimes explicitly say that our relationship is shit unless I have sex with you. You accuse me of mistreating you by not wanting sex, while you completely ignore my own feelings and needs.

This relationship is about you getting off. If not for that, it's not worth it. I'm not worth it. You're sick of it. You're tired of my behavior, you know, the behavior of simply not wanting to be made to have sex when I don't want to.
And every time you do this you chip away at my feelings for you. I am slowly starting to see you as a person I don't want to be with. A person I wouldn't even be friends with. I keep warning you that you need to change. You need to stop acting this way. But you ignore my warnings, and you are doing so at the detriment of our relationship.

Stay strong and don't lose your will to say no! You're doing a great job by just standing up for yourself like this. You'll get through this.

[Losty]

CIJS also, I know I'm an idiot. I know I am. I look at myself every day in the mirror and I say "S, you are a fucking idiot". I know something is seriously wrong with me that I let myself go through these things. And I think on a deeper level something else really wrong with me that I attract the kind of people who want to do these things to me.

You're not an idiot. I'm literally crying after reading your post. Omg I feel this. So bad. You know my past. Reading this just crunched my heart. I'm so sorry you feel like something is wrong with you.

Hugs <3

[Losty]

Thanks you guys

[KevinM1]

CIJS- You literally get mad and mean and start fights every single time I don't want to have sex. You also bring up the fight unprovoked when you're not trying to have sex and you heavily imply and sometimes explicitly say that our relationship is shit unless I have sex with you. You accuse me of mistreating you by not wanting sex, while you completely ignore my own feelings and needs.

This relationship is about you getting off. If not for that, it's not worth it. I'm not worth it. You're sick of it. You're tired of my behavior, you know, the behavior of simply not wanting to be made to have sex when I don't want to.
And every time you do this you chip away at my feelings for you. I am slowly starting to see you as a person I don't want to be with. A person I wouldn't even be friends with. I keep warning you that you need to change. You need to stop acting this way. But you ignore my warnings, and you are doing so at the detriment of our relationship.

CIJS also, I know I'm an idiot. I know I am. I look at myself every day in the mirror and I say "S, you are a fucking idiot". I know something is seriously wrong with me that I let myself go through these things. And I think on a deeper level something else really wrong with me that I attract the kind of people who want to do these things to me.

[brewer]

CIJS- You literally get mad and mean and start fights every single time I don't want to have sex. You also bring up the fight unprovoked when you're not trying to have sex and you heavily imply and sometimes explicitly say that our relationship is shit unless I have sex with you. You accuse me of mistreating you by not wanting sex, while you completely ignore my own feelings and needs.

This relationship is about you getting off. If not for that, it's not worth it. I'm not worth it. You're sick of it. You're tired of my behavior, you know, the behavior of simply not wanting to be made to have sex when I don't want to.
And every time you do this you chip away at my feelings for you. I am slowly starting to see you as a person I don't want to be with. A person I wouldn't even be friends with. I keep warning you that you need to change. You need to stop acting this way. But you ignore my warnings, and you are doing so at the detriment of our relationship.

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My wife conceded that this is what solitary viewing of porn was made for. You may need to have a talk with the boy (girl?), kleenex and disc/site in hand.

[Catholic_Lady]

Emotionally abusing/manipulating someone into having sex is borederline sexual assault, imho. It may not be against the law, but the abuse and feelings of being used and taken advantage of are still there.

[Astonished]

Emotionally abusing/manipulating someone into having sex is borederline sexual assault, imho. It may not be against the law, but the abuse and feelings of being used and taken advantage of are still there.

It doesn't even need to be about the sex; being treated like a piece of property so that they remain with an abusive partner, regardless of the rest of the content of the relationship, is bad enough as it is. Making them feel like less of a person, worthless so that nobody else would ever want them or that there's anything else out there for them, or that they don't deserve it if there is...mental slavery. The cornerstone of religion. So even if god isn't physically sodomizing his adherents, that's still a fucked-up relationship.

[Seraphina]

CIJS also, I know I'm not an idiot. I know I am not. I look at myself every day in the mirror and I say "S, you are a fucking idiot amazing and intelligent woman". I know something is seriously wrong with me you that I let myself go through these things you disrespect me. And I think on a deeper level something else really wrong with me you that I attract the kind of people who want you continue to do these things to me even after I tell you how much it hurts me.

*hug* Been there too. Made a few edits, I hope you don't mind. When you're ready, you'll see it too.  

-Teresa

[Kernel Sohcahtoa]

CIJS,

There is a temporary employee working in my department who is getting ready to begin his freshman year of college at an engineering school.  Now, I'm not sure how math came up, but he began talking about how much he enjoyed it.  Apparently, he has completed calculus AB and BC in high school, which is the equivalent of college level calculus I and II. 

Now, later on as the day progressed, I remarked that he would probably love differential equations (DE's), and he said that he had briefly covered DE's in his BC course.  I then asked him what kind of DE's he covered, and he wasn't exactly sure.  In response, I scribbled out a random first order DE in terms of y variables, which jogged his memory, as he stated that the objective was to solve for y via separating the variables on each side of the equation.  To top it all off, when this gentleman went on his break, he asked me if the equation that I wrote was solvable, as he wanted to work on it during his break; however, unfortunately, I kind of wrote it out of thin air, so I didn't want to reply in the affirmative because coming up with workable/challenging DE problems is a true art-form in itself.

With that said, I must say that I think this young man has got what it takes to really grow in mathematics: he has that curious desire to play with math and turn it inside and out, which IMO, is absolutely essential for success in higher mathematics.  Hence, I'm strongly considering giving him some of my math books (for free of course),  as I think he is one of those unique individuals who can actually do something cool/wonderful with mathematics along with his intelligence. 

P.S. I hope he has an excellent college experience and that he accomplishes his goals, as he is a very nice, young gentleman.  Live long and prosper, young sir.

[Fireball]

CIJS,

There is a temporary employee working in my department who is getting ready to begin his freshman year of college at an engineering school.  Now, I'm not sure how math came up, but he began talking about how much he enjoyed it.  Apparently, he has completed calculus AB and BC in high school, which is the equivalent of college level calculus I and II. 

Now, later on as the day progressed, I remarked that he would probably love differential equations (DE's), and he said that he had briefly covered DE's in his BC course.  I then asked him what kind of DE's he covered, and he wasn't exactly sure.  In response, I scribbled out a random first order DE in terms of y variables, which jogged his memory, as he stated that the objective was to solve for y via separating the variables on each side of the equation.  To top it all off, when this gentleman went on his break, he asked me if the equation that I wrote was solvable, as he wanted to work on it during his break; however, unfortunately, I kind of wrote it out of thin air, so I didn't want to reply in the affirmative because coming up with workable/challenging DE problems is a true art-form in itself.

With that said, I must say that I think this young man has got what it takes to really grow in mathematics: he has that curious desire to play with math and turn it inside and out, which IMO, is absolutely essential for success in higher mathematics.  Hence, I'm strongly considering giving him some of my math books (for free of course),  as I think he is one of those unique individuals who can actually do something cool/wonderful with mathematics along with his intelligence. 

P.S. I hope he has an excellent college experience and that he accomplishes his goals, as he is a very nice, young gentleman.  Live long and prosper, young sir.

Hopefully he won't be like the guy in one of my son's engineering classes, where the question was posed, "What makes iron stronger?", and responded "Lead?". Or, when asked why a Space Shuttle launch was so expensive, responded, "The high price of gasoline?". Looks like he won't. :thumbsup: