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RE: Active listening within friendships
July 24, 2016 at 9:21 pm
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With some people... I give up trying to have a meaningful conversation with them whatsoever (in person) because they either talk over me or clearly don't actually listen to anything I say. They're talking to themselves, basically. So I just politely say nothing of consequence.
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RE: Active listening within friendships
July 24, 2016 at 9:26 pm
What do you mean? You always say nothing of consequence.
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RE: Active listening within friendships
July 24, 2016 at 10:24 pm
I feel like a load is taken off with an interrupter. The more someone else wants to talk the more I get to just relax and people-watch. They're some of my favorite people...so much to say, so self sufficient.
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RE: Active listening within friendships
July 25, 2016 at 12:37 am
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Go on, I'm listening. 
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RE: Active listening within friendships
July 25, 2016 at 12:41 am
(July 25, 2016 at 12:37 am)ignoramus Wrote: Go on, I'm listening.
You're getting good at this. 
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RE: Active listening within friendships
July 25, 2016 at 1:45 am
(July 25, 2016 at 12:41 am)Mamacita Wrote: (July 25, 2016 at 12:37 am)ignoramus Wrote: Go on, I'm listening.
You're getting good at this.
If I'm understanding you correctly, you're giving him a compliment?
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RE: Active listening within friendships
July 25, 2016 at 1:58 am
Passive listening is better
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RE: Active listening within friendships
July 25, 2016 at 3:04 am
What does that mean?
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RE: Active listening within friendships
July 25, 2016 at 5:47 am
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(July 25, 2016 at 1:45 am)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: (July 25, 2016 at 12:41 am)Mamacita Wrote: You're getting good at this.
If I'm understanding you correctly, you're giving him a compliment?
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RE: Active listening within friendships
August 1, 2016 at 3:37 am
(July 23, 2016 at 10:48 am)robvalue Wrote: What I find very useful is to paraphrase back to someone what I think they are telling me, in my own words. This shows I've been listening, it gives me the chance to see if I've understood correctly, and the other person can correct any misunderstandings.
Obviously this is something that would summarise a section of conversation, not something to do after every sentence.
When done subtly this is nice. I really hate when I'm already frustrated and someone starts rewording everything I say back to me.
"I feel like you never listen to me!"
-You're feeling like I'm not listening to you but I want you to know that I am
"Why are you telling me what I just told you!?"
-you're wondering why I'm telling you back everything you've already said, I just want you to know I'm listening.
"I can gauge whether or not you're listening by your responses without you copying everything I say!"
-you think you can tell whether or not I'm listening by how I respond but I just want to be sure because I don't want you to think I'm not listening.
*murders person*
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