Widow and loss

[luthermaze]

im looking for a good message board/forum for widows or those of loss. a friend of mine is looking for a support group of some kind and id like to find a secular or less religious one online for her to go to. hard as hell finding anything online fucking spending hours.
ty

[Peebothuhlu]

Hello.

[Brian37]

im looking for a good message board/forum for widows or those of loss. a friend of mine is looking for a support group of some kind and id like to find a secular or less religious one online for her to go to. hard as hell finding anything online fucking spending hours.
ty

That is a rub for sure. When my late mother made the final choice not to do anything, or in legal terms "DNR" they sent a hospice agent to her nursing home to explain to both her, and me, how things would progress. The hospice agent kept on talking about support for me, but even after I told her I was an atheist, she made the argument "I respect your belief system". "Atheist" merely means "off" on God/god claims. It is not a "system'. Non believers have a variety of reasons they chose "off" as their position.

It was very irritating during my mom's last days, to have that Hospice care lady, and even the staff at the nursing home keep speaking about how she was in a better place. Not being in pain anyone can understand. But what theists mean by that is that your loved one moved on. Ok fine, why is it theists are not happy and thrilled when their loved ones die? If the "afterlife" is so much better, why would anyone be sad? 

It would be like being depressed that your loved one won the lottery. 

I don't personally know of secular support groups for survivors of death. But I do know all I had after my late mother's death were personal friends and not part of any organized support group.

[vulcanlogician]

I found this with google:

https://forums.grieving.com/

Doesn't look religious or anything. Has a "loss of partner" subforum.

[zebo-the-fat]

Sorry I can't offer any practical help, but welcome to the forum.

[Oldandeasilyconfused]

im looking for a good message board/forum for widows or those of loss. a friend of mine is looking for a support group of some kind and id like to find a secular or less religious one online for her to go to. hard as hell finding anything online fucking spending hours.
ty

Although this is not strictly a self help forum, many of the people here are compassionate and accepting. Pretty sure no one here would be deliberately cruel. 

With one exception so far, all of the adults I've known who died were elderly. So I was sad but not hopelessly so. 

On 15 July 2019, my most beloved male friend, of 50 year's standing, died of gastric cancer.  It took months and was awful to witness. Even though I was prepared for his death, I was shattered. Still think of him every day, and that's OK. Sometimes we just need to let ourselves be sad. Problem is, it's not always easy to work when that's right. Just one bit of advice: Never let anyone tell you what you should be feeling, about anything.


I've only recently returned to this forum after a break of nine years. Before jumping in, I  lurked for couple of weeks, reading as many posts as I could. That helped me sort the sheep from the goats so to speak. I think taking one's time is probably a good idea if one is thinking of joining a forum . Some are really great. Many are not. This one isn't bad in my opinion.

[brewer]

im looking for a good message board/forum for widows or those of loss. a friend of mine is looking for a support group of some kind and id like to find a secular or less religious one online for her to go to. hard as hell finding anything online fucking spending hours.
ty

I suggest that she looks for something in person locally. AFAIC the internet is not the best place for therapy.