Groomed at 17

[vulcanlogician]

No. I just didn't know what it was. And Bel was the first to flat out say it.

That's fine...my interpretation was surely questionable.

I feel like I was better off before having it spelled out to me what grooming was, so I prefer your definition.

[brewer]

Well, there still isn't a vid. (unless I missed the link)

But I understand that this threads 'grooming' is referring to underage sex.

I hope the rest of you understand that 'grooming' can refer to conditioning the young/inexperienced/unknowing into participating in many actions other than sex. Theft, cheating, gang violence, drug activities, murder, .........

Have non of you read Oliver Twist?

Please realize that a lot of religions/cults practice 'grooming'. Get them while they're young!

[arewethereyet]

Well, there still isn't a vid. (unless I missed the link)

But I understand that this threads 'grooming' is referring to underage sex.

I hope the rest of you understand that 'grooming' can refer to conditioning the young/inexperienced/unknowing into  participating in many actions other than sex. Theft, cheating, gang violence, drug activities, murder, .........

Have non of you read Oliver Twist?

Please realize that a lot of religions/cults practice 'grooming'. Get them while they're young!

That's why in my earlier response I included the words 'in this context'.

Perhaps my language skills have gone to crap tonight.

[brewer]

Well, there still isn't a vid. (unless I missed the link)

But I understand that this threads 'grooming' is referring to underage sex.

I hope the rest of you understand that 'grooming' can refer to conditioning the young/inexperienced/unknowing into  participating in many actions other than sex. Theft, cheating, gang violence, drug activities, murder, .........

Have non of you read Oliver Twist?

Please realize that a lot of religions/cults practice 'grooming'. Get them while they're young!

That's why in my earlier response I included the words 'in this context'.

Perhaps my language skills have gone to crap tonight.

It could also be my reading skills. I tend to skip over things, especially at night.

[Rev. Rye]

Well, there still isn't a vid. (unless I missed the link)

But I understand that this threads 'grooming' is referring to underage sex.

I hope the rest of you understand that 'grooming' can refer to conditioning the young/inexperienced/unknowing into participating in many actions other than sex. Theft, cheating, gang violence, drug activities, murder, .........

Have non of you read Oliver Twist?

Please realize that a lot of religions/cults practice 'grooming'. Get them while they're young!

Here's the video he talked about. All he had to do was mention Nikki Land made the video and I found it:




And, frankly, I've only watched the first third of the video so far, but this is looking like a pretty textbook emotionally abusive relationship. The biggest thing I've noticed in the first 33 minutes I've seen, besides the obvious age gap shit, is that he's (presuming she's telling the truth, and barring any contradicting information, I'm inclined to do so) the sort of guy who will be extremely paranoid about her potentially cheating on him, and the one time she gets away from him, he gaslights her into thinking she actually cheated on him (despite her being sure she didn't.) The sort of person who holds over her head that he provided her some basic necessities when she was 17-18 (and, as far as I know, not in a time where she had nowhere else to go). The sort of person who talks about an incident where she got drunk, passed out, and vomited all over her shirt, and said she should be grateful he didn't rape her. The sort of person who strings a girl along and actually makes her listen to him ask Siri "who's my girlfriend" and hearing Siri, without fail, say some other girl's name. For six fucking years.

And that's with about an hour of the video left. It could get worse, but I don't feel like going through the last two thirds of the video right now.

If PaulPablo says that every breakup he's had has done shit like this, I'm sorry, dude, but either you have the biggest string of narcissists as your exes, or that might reflect more on you than on them. If it's the latter, either seek professional help or just order a dakimakura and you'll get a girlfriend who won't talk shit about you after the breakup.