RE: Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?
August 5, 2015 at 3:57 pm
(This post was last modified: August 5, 2015 at 3:58 pm by Catholic_Lady.)
(August 5, 2015 at 3:43 pm)Pyrrho Wrote:(My bold. Answers below.)(August 5, 2015 at 3:14 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Nope! No straw, please.
I meant only exactly what I said. Nothing more, nothing less.
Here is your post:
(August 4, 2015 at 11:09 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: I don't see how it would make a difference... at least to me, personally. Let's rewind to 6 years ago at a time when my now husband and I were about to get engaged. But before we did, lets say we had sex as some sort of little "test." Even if the sex wasn't great, I wouldn't dump someone I loved so much over something that we had our whole lives to improve on. That's what I just don't get about folks saying they have to "test drive" other people. But I guess it's just not my way of thinking.
Now, if sex is important to you, why would it not make a difference if the sex is bad? Working on it may or may not improve it, so it may be that the bad sex is all you would ever get in such a case.
Are you saying that you care about sex, but do not care if it is bad?
Let us imagine a situation that, happily, is contrary to what has actually happened. Suppose you had decided to try him out first. Suppose he was totally inept and terrible at sex. Suppose that practice did not make perfect, and he was always horrible, no matter what either of you tried. Now, would you want to be married to him anyway? If yes, then obviously good sex is not that important to you, as you would never have good sex with him. If no, then it would make a difference, contrary to what you claim about it not making a difference.
1. I don't think being naked with/on someone I love as much as I love Brian could ever be "bad."
2. If it wasn't fireworks, or I didn't orgasm, we would still have the rest of our lives to work on it... and since I know he loves me and wants nothing more than to please me and make me happy, I know that he would continue to do everything he could to improve for me.
3. Yes, I like sex and it is important to me. But I love my husband more than I love sex. If he got into a bad accident, got paralyzed, and was physically unable to perform ever again, I would still not leave him.
That is why I would not have dumped my husband if our initial sexual encounters pre engagement were not great. Not because "I don't care about sex."
Hope that clears it up!
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