(January 10, 2016 at 2:56 pm)Mermaid Wrote:(January 10, 2016 at 2:20 pm)KevinM1 Wrote: I don't know.
How late was it?
Do you live on a dark street?
Are there ample places for an assailant to hide?
Is it in a neighborhood that has a relatively high crime rate?
Kevin, this is what I am referring to. I asked if I was partially to blame here, and your reply implies that maybe I was. That's a different thing than the victim being 0% to blame. I am seriously not trying to be antagonistic. Just trying to have a dialog on an admittedly raw and emotional topic, but one that I find unbelievably important.
Yeah, you're right. I wrote that in haste while being a bit perturbed with Evie when I felt he was trying to put words in my mouth, and as a result was very sloppy. I'm sorry.
No, you're not partially to blame for the rape. Did you increase the risk of something - anything - bad happening? Maybe, depending on the variables I asked about. But the responsibility/blame/fault/whatever word fits best for the rape lies with the person committing the rape. Always. Period. Full stop.
Maybe an analogy will make how I see it clear:
Imagine that "shoot the clown's mouth with water" game at the local fair. Risk represents the size of its mouth. The greater the risk, the wider its mouth.
An assault is someone walking up to the booth, grabbing the gun, and successfully shooting the water into the mouth.
The odds of a successful shot/assault happening are greater when the mouth is wide. But! The shooter/assailant is still the one to blame because they're the one intentionally trying to exploit the situation.
"I was thirsty for everything, but blood wasn't my style" - Live, "Voodoo Lady"
