(January 10, 2016 at 3:12 pm)Jenny A Wrote: I do blame her. What she did was not just a little, but incredibly stupid. I just won't let him off the hook either. He's still a rapist and should be punished. Her stupidity was self punishing.
She's to blame for her stupidity, yes. But she's not to blame for getting raped, of course.
I think "blame" directed towards the victim is not a helpful word in cases like this. Just because the victim-blaming thing is so harmful.
I do agree that this kind of stupid behavior needs to be discouraged, and she was really stupid and foolish for doing it, and she is to blame for her stupid behavior, but it really needs to be made clear that blaming her for her stupid behavior is very different to partially blaming her for getting raped.
