(April 13, 2016 at 9:15 am)Losty Wrote: I've been realizing more and more what a horrible person I am because of how much I enjoy to people watch and think really mean things about people D:
I don't stare at people in a creepy way and I'm really nice to them. I try not to even talk about them (except to maybe my older sister because she gets me). But I really love to see someone who looks like a train wreck. 250+ lbs in a spandex leopard print body suit, anyone with a mullet, pajamas in public, those really humongous jeans that could fit like 4 people in each leg. Anyone who could end up on "people of Walmart". These people are my greatest source of entertainment.
I think it's terrible to judge people, and even worse to make people feel bad for how they look.
I would never be mean to someone or make fun of them (out loud), but I think I would have no friends if people could hear the thoughts that bounce around in my head.
So, I guess I'm just wondering how horrible it is if you just think the horrible thoughts but you don't say them out loud...
Having thoughts is not a crime by itself, it is when you act on them to the physical harm of others that it becomes cruel and beyond mere thought.
It also isn't a matter of expressing dissent or blasphemy or ridicule. I think it's really unrealistic to expect 7 billion humans to never offend each other verbally. The key is to know the difference between bullying and blasphemy. It isn't bullying when you can leave a situation. It is harassment and bullying then the target has no way out and when it is repeated.
I'd say direct situations one has no choice being at, especially when it comes to school, even off campus on social media, those kids still have to return to that setting, so in that context even what is said off campus can follow them. And with work places too, but to a lesser extent. I'd simply advise employees it would be better not to share social media with your co workers, if for nothing else sometimes you like bitching about your boss and or co workers and to say we never do or should is absurd.
But, to say something about some other human whom is a celebrity or politician or is part of a political party and or religion who lives a separate life and can block you on social media whom is not mandated to be in person with you, no you are not being bullied at that point.
Speech is a very tricky thing and cannot be subject to blanket solutions on any topic, looks or otherwise.
