RE: Is there a right way to romantically connect with others?
September 11, 2016 at 5:14 am
(This post was last modified: September 11, 2016 at 5:14 am by bennyboy.)
I don't think polyamory is ethical, because I still believe (shoot me, I already know what you fuckers are going to say about this) that at the core, heterosexual relationships are about babies. Yeah, fuck you, I said it, don't start with me.
The ethics of sexuality are largely to do with what happens at the point of pregnancy. In a polyamorous relationship, pregnancy likely means that the woman will no longer get to be anything-androus. Since she's lacking the bonded understanding of a monogamous couple, she's going to have a hard time convincing the man that he suddenly needs to commit to helping her build a nest and raising a child.
The other issue is the reproductive life cycle. It's easy to talk a 20 year-old girl into thinking she'll never ever want a baby. But fast forward about 9 years, and there's going to be a real dissonance-- she's very likely to start wondering about reproducing, whereas for a man-- well, he's still got about 40 years to think about it.
The ethics of sexuality are largely to do with what happens at the point of pregnancy. In a polyamorous relationship, pregnancy likely means that the woman will no longer get to be anything-androus. Since she's lacking the bonded understanding of a monogamous couple, she's going to have a hard time convincing the man that he suddenly needs to commit to helping her build a nest and raising a child.
The other issue is the reproductive life cycle. It's easy to talk a 20 year-old girl into thinking she'll never ever want a baby. But fast forward about 9 years, and there's going to be a real dissonance-- she's very likely to start wondering about reproducing, whereas for a man-- well, he's still got about 40 years to think about it.
