(December 23, 2022 at 9:42 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: Here's my take on this - the OP is looking to get laid. He's not looking for a relationship. There are women out there looking to get laid and not for a relationship. OP is focusing on the wrong group of women. His desperation is going to turn any woman away who isn't out for quick romp.
I don't OP understands there's a difference.
As a guy who's been shot down a number of times, my take is that you put your goods in the shop-window and hope that it convinces shoppers to come in and lay down their piasters. I know I've got a lot of good stuff for sale, but I also understand that shoppers might not be looking for what I have on offer.
The problem comes when you only blame the shoppers, and don't stop to consider what it is that people are actually looking for. Taking it as an insult or a brush-off, blaming the other, indicates that he isn't thinking to himself "what might be wrong with me that she doesn't find me attractive?"
In short, maybe what you have on offer is detected and passed-over. Is that a "them" problem or a "you" problem?
