I dunno. I can kinda see both sides of it.
On one hand, a lot of GLBT environments do kinda erase bisexuals. I've felt it. Part of me gets a little nervous about my boyfriend passing to well because, suddenly, if we start to be seen as a regular old straight couple, I worry that we'll lose some of that acceptance we currently get, being seen as a couple of lesbians; and that time of passing seems to be rapidly approaching, too.
On the other hand, I've also seen my fair share of (mostly) girls who claim to be bi, date guys exclusively and cling to their bisexual claims to making out with other girls once in a while, usually to get attention or excite men. I've even seen guys who also date only girls, but cling to some other-than-straight identity so they can fit into environments that can be hostile to straight, cis, white men. I kinda feel like, when people do that, when they claim identities for reasons that are less than genuine, it cheapens what the rest of us go through.
Fortunately, it's not as much of an issue for me as it is for a lot of people. I'm in a relationship, have been for nearly three years now and I'm not really looking for anyone else to get with. Being bisexual (or straight or gay) is kinda about who you date or sleep with and since my partner is solidly chosen already, I don't have to worry about finding anyone else any time soon. But, yeah, it does frustrate me seeing some of these queer spaces that are formed around how they're all different from each othe instead of focusing on what they have in common. Why do we always have to needlessly divide ourselves?
On one hand, a lot of GLBT environments do kinda erase bisexuals. I've felt it. Part of me gets a little nervous about my boyfriend passing to well because, suddenly, if we start to be seen as a regular old straight couple, I worry that we'll lose some of that acceptance we currently get, being seen as a couple of lesbians; and that time of passing seems to be rapidly approaching, too.
On the other hand, I've also seen my fair share of (mostly) girls who claim to be bi, date guys exclusively and cling to their bisexual claims to making out with other girls once in a while, usually to get attention or excite men. I've even seen guys who also date only girls, but cling to some other-than-straight identity so they can fit into environments that can be hostile to straight, cis, white men. I kinda feel like, when people do that, when they claim identities for reasons that are less than genuine, it cheapens what the rest of us go through.
Fortunately, it's not as much of an issue for me as it is for a lot of people. I'm in a relationship, have been for nearly three years now and I'm not really looking for anyone else to get with. Being bisexual (or straight or gay) is kinda about who you date or sleep with and since my partner is solidly chosen already, I don't have to worry about finding anyone else any time soon. But, yeah, it does frustrate me seeing some of these queer spaces that are formed around how they're all different from each othe instead of focusing on what they have in common. Why do we always have to needlessly divide ourselves?
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"If you cling to something as the absolute truth and you are caught in it, when the truth comes in person to knock on your door you will refuse to let it in." ~ Siddhartha Gautama
"If you cling to something as the absolute truth and you are caught in it, when the truth comes in person to knock on your door you will refuse to let it in." ~ Siddhartha Gautama
