The right to mis-define oneself

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Just to throw in my two pence, I find it very hard to believe that many people would be traumatised by this "late reveal". Sure, maybe a few people would. But trauma is a very strong word, maybe that's the problem here. I have what I suspect is trauma from my childhood, buried so deep even therapy hasn't brought it out, but its effects on me are obvious. So much so that my wife cannot believe I'm not putting it on when it happens. To suggest that seeing a misplaced penis is going to cause anything like the same level of psychological damage is baffling me.

And really, I find it also extremely hard to believe anyone would get to that late stage, where undress is imminent, but not have said anything at all. So I think this is a fairly non-existent person, except maybe a few very strange people. Maybe I'm wrong about this, if the data is out there!