(August 7, 2015 at 2:21 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: I think you missed the point of my post. Sometimes you don't find out whether or not you actually like something until you try it. And then what if one of you really likes it - it's a huge deal - and the other doesn't?
I've been there.
I don't see why they can't compromise. If one person has a BDSM fetish and the other doesn't have that same fetish, can't they just have BDSM sex sometimes, and sometimes have vanilla sex? Variety seems like it'd be better anyway.
I don't have that fetish, but if my husband did, I'd want to please him. I'd be happy to incorporate that into our lovemaking at times, and he'd be happy to have "normal" sex with me other times. That's what I meant by self giving love. Both people want to please the other.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh
-walsh
