RE: Being Upfront About Our Negative Traits
October 24, 2016 at 12:53 am
(This post was last modified: October 24, 2016 at 12:54 am by Thumpalumpacus.)
(October 23, 2016 at 11:48 pm)vorlon13 Wrote: I'm a stubborn son of a bitch.
I've been known to hold grudges for very long periods of time (somewhat ameliorating on that as my golden years approach, BTW)
I regards to addictions/addicts, I'm pretty tolerant of alcoholics (I'd better be, they put up with me), and those with other chemical addictions, but I admit to quite a bit of intolerance towards gambling addicts. And yeah, there have been alcoholics with gambling problems I've encountered. I really struggle with that to the extent I have to.
As for telling people, the grudge thing is of concern only to those in the crosshairs, and they tend to figure it out soon enough. I don't see the point in advertising the trait, but maybe I should?
As for the stubbornness, had some advice at 12 Steppers that went along the lines of stubbornness by itself is neither positive or negative, it falls to how we employ it. Frankly, it can be self-destructive. My lack of acceptance over the AIDS crisis was a tough row to hoe. (12 Steppers is big on acceptance, I've had an intense struggle with it, sufficient I rarely interact with newcomers out of concern for fucking up their recoveries. Some times on some subjects, I just dig in on, and I'm not going to be deflected.
I suffer stubbornness myself. I don't like it in myself most times ... perhaps I need to refine my decision-making process when it comes to choosing my battles.
