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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 19, 2017 at 7:23 pm
(July 19, 2017 at 3:39 pm)J a c k Wrote: CIJS and I'm just being honest?
I'm mad at Magnífico. He has broken some of my favorite mugs when jumping on my coffee table. That's sad, but whatever. My favorite beer glass, though. Fucking Magnus! I scolded him and Fígaro watched from a distance and I could tell Fígaro was loving it. Magnífico not so much.
Efffff.
I hate scolding my cat. I rarely have to do it, but then I always feel guilty afterwards. After all, I am the smarter of the species, and here I am scolding a creature that is merely doing what is in its nature.
Scolding and training pets seems to me that we are attempting to make them like us. And they could never be like us.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 20, 2017 at 6:05 pm
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CIJS - Yknow that situation when you're nice to the weird kid in school, and then they follow you everywhere?
It's even more awkward when that happens with adults.
So when I go into work, I'm very nice and jovial, even if I'm feeling like shit inside really. That's what I give, a professional face. I don't know why this man, who is older than my Dad would be if he were still walking among us, takes my niceness to mean I suddenly want to be best friends with him, to go out for drinks, to go have a meal, or for him to buy me chocolates (which makes me feel pressured to buy something back). He also seems to make a beeline for me at work so we can chat, all the time, like I can't catch a break.
It's bordering on courting, it's that full-on, and I just don't understand it. I could see if maybe we'd been colleagues for a minute and we'd been through a lot together, work-wise. Seriously though, I just met you the other week.
Maybe I'm just an anti-social bastard who doesn't deserve friends, or maybe that's the society I've grown up in, but I can't handle all this obsessive niceness for no reason. It's just odd to me, not having my own space at work because you're following me around to talk to me, and I don't know how to react to it. I should really be self-employed somewhere, so I can just have my chilly little black heart to myself.
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People at this job are so messy. I could go down the list tbh... but then I'm too busy daydreaming about sitting on the dreamy Ethiopian guy's face. Why can't he stalk me instead? Ugh.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 21, 2017 at 12:25 am
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CIJS,
I must admit that I'm baffled when people remark about my intelligence and niceness. I think part of the reason for the illusion of my perceived intelligence (co-workers, family members, friends, acquaintances, etc.) is the fact that I like ideas and will usually carry around books (usually math stuff) in order to keep myself occupied and learning. In addition, probably one of the biggest mistakes that I've made is performing various mental parlor tricks, which have given the illusion of aptitude and talent. Thus, if people remark about my intelligence, I'm very flattered and taken aback, but at best, and in all honesty, I'm just a guy who is unusually curious . With that said, I truly admire those few, rare people who are intellectually unique/remarkable and can constructively contribute to the expansion of human knowledge/understanding and the advancement of thought and progress, which IMO, could extend far beyond humanity.
Regarding my perceived niceness, I think the credit must go to the various role models that I've had. One of my mentors in high school was of the opinion that respect is a one way street, and while many people disagreed with him on this point (they had a two way view), I appreciated his viewpoint, and it stuck with me as a result. I must also give credit to the various peacemakers and conflict resolution experts who I've interacted with over the years, as they have shared invaluable knowledge with me, which IMO, has been extremely useful in my attempts to enhance/hone my skills in the art of mastering one's emotions and behaving proactively and constructively.
P.S. This is not an attempt on my part to put myself down. Rather, the purpose of this post is to give an honest reflection about myself and to express my admiration for the special people that I've read about or encountered throughout my life. Live long and prosper.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 21, 2017 at 1:18 am
But... Kernel... you are intelligent and nice. 
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And by study I mean I could probably tell you what the texture of that chin does to my hands. What the side of that neck does to my lips. What that chest does to mine. What those arms do when I press myself against you. Yeah, I study it. I study it like... a fookin rock.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 21, 2017 at 8:44 pm
CIJS
How did I stumble into this clusterfuck? It's becoming so fubar, it's almost comical. Oh well, it will solve itself in due time.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 21, 2017 at 9:13 pm
CIJS, that I've dated a lot of religious type men and atheist men (I didn't sleep with them all, relax lol) and BY FAR, the guys that I've dated who've been atheists were the most chill, generous, and non-sexist men out there. (not to say there aren't atheist sexists out there, because there are) But, my husband for example, is a non-theist. I've noticed that non-theists just make better lovers, partners, and listeners. They care about their partners' needs and my husband isn't looking to fit me into a prescribed role that is based on an ancient book of tales. I do like him to lead in the relationship, I find that masculine and sexy, but because it works for us, not because it's being forced on us, and he is forcing it on me.
Non-theists make better partners, imo.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 21, 2017 at 9:19 pm
CIJS it would be fine if you fucked them all.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 21, 2017 at 9:20 pm
(July 21, 2017 at 9:13 pm)*Deidre* Wrote: CIJS, that I've dated a lot of religious type men and atheist men (I didn't sleep with them all, relax lol) and BY FAR, the guys that I've dated who've been atheists were the most chill, generous, and non-sexist men out there. (not to say there aren't atheist sexists out there, because there are) But, my husband for example, is a non-theist. I've noticed that non-theists just make better lovers, partners, and listeners. They care about their partners' needs and my husband isn't looking to fit me into a prescribed role that is based on an ancient book of tales. I do like him to lead in the relationship, I find that masculine and sexy, but because it works for us, not because it's being forced on us, and he is forcing it on me.
Non-theists make better partners, imo.
God damn it. Next thing you know I'll have to get rid of my stone collection.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 21, 2017 at 9:25 pm
(July 21, 2017 at 9:13 pm)*Deidre* Wrote: CIJS, that I've dated a lot of religious type men and atheist men (I didn't sleep with them all, relax lol) and BY FAR, the guys that I've dated who've been atheists were the most chill, generous, and non-sexist men out there...
That's funny, I was talking with a female friend (also atheist) a few days ago and we both said the same thing. 
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 21, 2017 at 9:25 pm
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(July 21, 2017 at 9:19 pm)Losty Wrote: CIJS it would be fine if you fucked them all.
hahaha I  you !!
(July 21, 2017 at 9:25 pm)Tres Leches Wrote: (July 21, 2017 at 9:13 pm)*Deidre* Wrote: CIJS, that I've dated a lot of religious type men and atheist men (I didn't sleep with them all, relax lol) and BY FAR, the guys that I've dated who've been atheists were the most chill, generous, and non-sexist men out there...
That's funny, I was talking with a female friend (also atheist) a few days ago and we both said the same thing.
-Teresa
Yea, here's what I think it might be...that non-theists/atheist men are just more secure in their own skin. Again, there's exceptions, but a lot of religious type men, namely Christians, are really insecure, especially sexually. Religion can fuck a lot of things up in the bedroom, no pun. 
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