(June 8, 2016 at 5:57 am)paulpablo Wrote:

(June 7, 2016 at 10:10 pm)Alasdair Ham Wrote: I love being part of the slutty non-monogamous triad in this poll.

I actually didn't expect the poll to be so ridiculously one sided.

Welcome to the harlot club, here's you're lifetime supply of condoms. Now get to messing around, ye feckin slut.

I'm just a Hipster, that one who went with "Some other description". Mostly because I'm bipolar and can't decide what I want from one day to the next.

(June 7, 2016 at 3:56 pm)robvalue Wrote: I can't remember if this has been mentioned already but...

There's one quite obvious advantage to being monogamous: peace of mind about STDs. You only need one check each, then you're set.

I'm not suggesting this would/should be a deciding factor, it's just a bonus really.

While it's a perk to get less STD's, Monogamy is certainly not a guarantee or peace of mind that you won't get STD's. For example...

1) Your partner could be having sex with others.
2) You could get an STD from public restrooms.
3) You can get STD's like Hep. A from contaminated food.
4) Skin to skin contact with certain STD's of other people.
5) You can get STD's from other bed-sheets.
6) Tanning beds can leave STD's from other people.
7) Used razors can also harbor STD's.

I'm not starting an argument, just being nit-picky.

(June 6, 2016 at 8:31 pm)paulpablo Wrote:

(June 6, 2016 at 8:08 pm)MJ the Skeptical Wrote: I was referring to the process of finding like-minded people being limited. Did you get that or was this sarcasm I missed?

Being non monogamous by definition means you're in closer proximity to more vaginas than if you were monogamous.

So sarcasm involved or not, being monogamous is the lifestyle where you're in a very real sense repelling vaginas (except the one you're having sex with.)

If you're purposefully monogamous you're repelling, or at least avoiding contact in a very real physical and psychological way with all over vaginas except one.

If you're non monogamous finding like minded people really isn't that hard.  With the internet it's basically like shooting fish in a barrel, before the internet I remember nightclubs having a fairly high percentage of non monogamous people. 

Yeh if you walk around with a T shirt that says "PUSSAYYY PATROL!!" and you brag to every female you're trying to get with about how many other females you've been with your chances of success will be very highly diminished when trying to chat to girls in the local library.  But just in general it's not that difficult to be non monogamous and not repel women, in my experience.  I admit it is all subjective to circumstances.

Okay, you missed my point or you're being flippant here. Maybe for you it's not, but for me, it's not easy to just find like-minded people of minority ideologies on the whole, like atheists or whatever. So what would you know on the topic of non-monogamous guys looking for girls that like that? Are you a non-monogamist who finds it easy to find what you want? Or are you just an armchair specialist on the subject? My point, that went flying past your head, is that it's not just so easy to find girls who are not into monogamy. I thought that much would have been obvious based on what I said, or the fact that women in other species as well as our own tend to want providers for their offspring, so there's the evolutionary aspect here as well. So in conclusion, if a guy goes around saying they're non-monogamist, it's not going to be appealing to most women, thus the pussy repellent comment I made.

(June 9, 2016 at 4:55 am)MJ the Skeptical Wrote:

(June 6, 2016 at 8:31 pm)paulpablo Wrote: Being non monogamous by definition means you're in closer proximity to more vaginas than if you were monogamous.

So sarcasm involved or not, being monogamous is the lifestyle where you're in a very real sense repelling vaginas (except the one you're having sex with.)

If you're purposefully monogamous you're repelling, or at least avoiding contact in a very real physical and psychological way with all over vaginas except one.

If you're non monogamous finding like minded people really isn't that hard.  With the internet it's basically like shooting fish in a barrel, before the internet I remember nightclubs having a fairly high percentage of non monogamous people. 

Yeh if you walk around with a T shirt that says "PUSSAYYY PATROL!!" and you brag to every female you're trying to get with about how many other females you've been with your chances of success will be very highly diminished when trying to chat to girls in the local library.  But just in general it's not that difficult to be non monogamous and not repel women, in my experience.  I admit it is all subjective to circumstances.

Okay, you missed my point or you're being flippant here. Maybe for you it's not, but for me, it's not easy to just find like-minded people of minority ideologies on the whole, like atheists or whatever. So what would you know on the topic of non-monogamous guys looking for girls that like that? Are you a non-monogamist who finds it easy to find what you want? Or are you just an armchair specialist on the subject? My point, that went flying past your head, is that it's not just so easy to find girls who are not into monogamy. I thought that much would have been obvious based on what I said, or the fact that women in other species as well as our own tend to want providers for their offspring, so there's the evolutionary aspect here as well. So in conclusion, if a guy goes around saying they're non-monogamist, it's not going to be appealing to most women, thus the pussy repellent comment I made.

I find it easy to find women who are non monogamous. I said in my previous post this is a subjective experience.  Although if you have an internet connection and you can't find non monogamous women while trying very hard I'd say you must be really really bad at using the internet in general.

 Women in other species aren't called women, you're thinking of females. It depends upon the breeding strategy of the species as to whether or not they choose dependable fathers, there's something called r/K selection theory, some people apply this theory to different breeding patterns of humans.

Yes if a guy goes around saying they're non monogamist they will be repellent for women I imagine.  But it was very rare for me to talk about monogamy or non monogamy with any girl I had sex with when I was living a very non monogamous lifestyle.  Sex would occur before any deep conversation about ethics, morality or lifestyle choices were mentioned.

So yes the words "I'm non monogamous" are possibly more repellent to a woman than the words "I'm monogamous"  But being non monogamous means, purely by definition, that you are with more than one woman in a short period of time.  Being monogamous means that you're with one woman over a significant amount of time in a relationship.  And you're repelling, or at least not actively trying to attract any other women, unlike the person who is non monogamous who by definition has attracted at least two women at the same time.

Monogamous bisexual. 

For a while, it was a case of "serial monogamy" (one partner at a time but the relationships don't last). I spent my youth bouncing back and forth between the intense, passionate but unstable romance that blew up dramatically followed by a dull, boring but stable relationship with someone "nice but..." and then back again to the whirlwind romance again. When I looked back at my dating history, I could easily see the pattern: storm, dull, storm, dull... I didn't need a therapist to tell me what was going on there. Each relationship was a reaction to the previous. 

I eventually settled down with a happy medium.

Not monogamous, but with rules. I don't think there's anything wrong with monogamy, but I also don't think sex always has to be about love. Some people have turn ons that can't be experienced in a monogamous relationship. I'm one of them, though if my husband wanted monogamy I'd have no problem with it.

(June 10, 2016 at 6:36 pm)Cecelia Wrote: Not monogamous, but with rules.  I don't think there's anything wrong with monogamy, but I also don't think sex always has to be about love.  Some people have turn ons that can't be experienced in a monogamous relationship.  I'm one of them, though if my husband wanted monogamy I'd have no problem with it.

This post sounds interesting and raises so many questions....

(June 7, 2016 at 8:08 pm)ignoramus Wrote: Guys. You know how God knows our thoughts and stuff!

Is anyone here monogamous in their dreams?
Who/what have you had relations with in your dreams?

This could be a long line me thinks and we're all likely going to hell.

Strange you would ask that, but . . . yes.

Having been married 23 years now, it seems to have this long-reaching effect into dreamland now. I kind of miss my unknown dream-lovers; but . . . it is what it is.

(June 9, 2016 at 8:13 am)paulpablo Wrote:

(June 9, 2016 at 4:55 am)MJ the Skeptical Wrote: Okay, you missed my point or you're being flippant here. Maybe for you it's not, but for me, it's not easy to just find like-minded people of minority ideologies on the whole, like atheists or whatever. So what would you know on the topic of non-monogamous guys looking for girls that like that? Are you a non-monogamist who finds it easy to find what you want? Or are you just an armchair specialist on the subject? My point, that went flying past your head, is that it's not just so easy to find girls who are not into monogamy. I thought that much would have been obvious based on what I said, or the fact that women in other species as well as our own tend to want providers for their offspring, so there's the evolutionary aspect here as well. So in conclusion, if a guy goes around saying they're non-monogamist, it's not going to be appealing to most women, thus the pussy repellent comment I made.

I find it easy to find women who are non monogamous. I said in my previous post this is a subjective experience.  Although if you have an internet connection and you can't find non monogamous women while trying very hard I'd say you must be really really bad at using the internet in general.

 Women in other species aren't called women, you're thinking of females. It depends upon the breeding strategy of the species as to whether or not they choose dependable fathers, there's something called r/K selection theory, some people apply this theory to different breeding patterns of humans.

Yes if a guy goes around saying they're non monogamist they will be repellent for women I imagine.  But it was very rare for me to talk about monogamy or non monogamy with any girl I had sex with when I was living a very non monogamous lifestyle.  Sex would occur before any deep conversation about ethics, morality or lifestyle choices were mentioned.

So yes the words "I'm non monogamous" are possibly more repellent to a woman than the words "I'm monogamous"  But being non monogamous means, purely by definition, that you are with more than one woman in a short period of time.  Being monogamous means that you're with one woman over a significant amount of time in a relationship.  And you're repelling, or at least not actively trying to attract any other women, unlike the person who is non monogamous who by definition has attracted at least two women at the same time.

So fucking dumb and generalized...there are plenty of factors why it's hard to find a minority group which has nothing to do "not being able to use the internet" you condescending cunt.

Like; Location, Specific desires, Your gender, Your age, Your demeanor, Your choices etc.

Yeah, in your anecdotal subjective experience it was easy, good for you romeo, you don't get to generalize people who can't because it was "easy" for you, that's fucking stupid. You even admit if people go around saying they don't fall under the strict monogamous label it's not going to be easy to find like minded people, as is such the case on the internet. Especially if you are a guy, who has to try much harder than a woman does to find what he wants. And yet again you are just dead fucking wrong, just because you are non-monogamous does not mean you are always around tons of vaginas. You could just not be into relationships which would disqualify you from monogamy as well.