(December 27, 2013 at 1:40 pm)Raeven Wrote: I don't mind you asking. He was a fabulous, wonderful man and I will miss him always. But he would not be pleased for me to become a living memorial to him -- so I haven't.

Lia and I feel the same way. While we're immensely fond of each other we wouldn't either begrudge the other a satisfying life after one of us dies. This surely will come to pass sooner or later. We're 60 and 70 and no one lives forever.

(December 27, 2013 at 1:40 pm)Raeven Wrote: The first year was the worst, of course. Apart from the excruciating grief, there was just plain a hell of a lot I didn't know about how to take run this place. The dream of country living was far more my husband's than mine.

Obviously I decided to stay. It is a lucky spot in which to live, and I try never to take that for granted -- even when a pipe bursts and floods the hen house or an animal is badly injured and must be put down (the only real reason I relearned my shooting skills). I don't mind being alone and am seldom lonely, but I do miss sharing my life with someone. Problem is, of course, you can't just manufacture a relationship to suit the situation. It's something that either happens or it doesn't. So I try to keep a hand in meeting new people and not becoming too hermit-like here on the farm. I can't say it's tough so much as melancholy, if that makes sense.

Meanwhile, I run a business as well so there is always something waiting for me to get it done, whether on the farm or for work. It's good to keep busy!

Ouch. There was a time when I would have chosen country living, but no longer. Neither of us ever wants to move again. We can take BART and be in San Francisco in less than a half hour. We can walk to restaurants, theaters and shopping as well as the Cal campus which brings in all kinds of performances and lecturers. But we both value our solitude too, and your setting would be ideal for that. So long as you have good friends around, it seems pretty ideal. I'm glad you're making time to meet new men friends too. It deserves an effort.

(December 27, 2013 at 1:40 pm)Raeven Wrote: LOL, aren't you glad you asked?

Very much so, yes. It's an important thing to know to know you and surely more comfortable to have it out in the open and normalized. It isn't shameful or scary. I'm glad for you that you lost someone you were proud to have shared your life with. That's important. Better to live with someone worth missing obviously. It will be that way in my turn too. It's funny how theists are always wondering how atheists can be grateful without having anyone to be grateful to. But I often feel that way. Grateful, fortunate, call it what you want.

Well, maybe one day I'll find a cat that needs a home.. I do very much love cats, I just feel awful jinxed when it comes to them

I'd love to have a mini farm one day, with a couple horses and a cow, some of those goats that fall over, a big barn dog, and a chicken coop. Of course I'd need some cats.. Maybe theyd fare better on more than a couple acreage

(December 28, 2013 at 2:24 am)missluckie26 Wrote: Well, maybe one day I'll find a cat that needs a home.. I do very much love cats, I just feel awful jinxed when it comes to them

I'd love to have a mini farm one day, with a couple horses and a cow, some of those goats that fall over, a big barn dog, and a chicken coop. Of course I'd need some cats.. Maybe theyd fare better on more than a couple acreage

Plenty of room here in WA MissL

Personally? I hate cats...allergies.

(December 28, 2013 at 2:27 am)KichigaiNeko Wrote:

(December 28, 2013 at 2:24 am)missluckie26 Wrote: Well, maybe one day I'll find a cat that needs a home.. I do very much love cats, I just feel awful jinxed when it comes to them

I'd love to have a mini farm one day, with a couple horses and a cow, some of those goats that fall over, a big barn dog, and a chicken coop. Of course I'd need some cats.. Maybe theyd fare better on more than a couple acreage

Plenty of room here in WA MissL

Personally? I hate cats...allergies.

Yeah, cats give me allergies too. Hence the need for them to be outdoors I had one cat though named Dosha (slang for weed) that had the fluffiest softest fur, and for some reason he didn't bother my allergies unless I buried my face in him, which I did often. He was my puppy-cat. Followed me around like a puppy, and not once Ever went to the restroom outside his box! Those cats are hard to find..
Damn coyotes. I hate coyotes.

As for having a farm when I come to WA, well--Ryan is a city boy I'll probably have to do with a rabbit in the backyard or somethin..

(December 28, 2013 at 2:39 am)missluckie26 Wrote:

(December 28, 2013 at 2:27 am)KichigaiNeko Wrote: Plenty of room here in WA MissL

Personally? I hate cats...allergies.

Yeah, cats give me allergies too. Hence the need for them to be outdoors I had one cat though named Dosha (slang for weed) that had the fluffiest softest fur, and for some reason he didn't bother my allergies unless I buried my face in him, which I did often. He was my puppy-cat. Followed me around like a puppy, and not once Ever went to the restroom outside his box! Those cats are hard to find..
Damn coyotes. I hate coyotes.

As for having a farm when I come to WA, well--Ryan is a city boy I'll probably have to do with a rabbit in the backyard or somethin..

Wait until you see what passes as "City" for us hunny.

I can't wait, life is a series of days spent waiting, now.

Looking forward to meeting you IRL.

Will warn you though, this (Australia) is nothing you have experienced before so be kind to yourself and give yourself at least eight years to "acclimatise"

This week at least. Another walk picture. As the wife slows down, I'm finding more and more things to photograph.

The gents toilets refurb at work is AWESOME. I hope they do the same in the ladies

(December 28, 2013 at 10:55 am)NoraBrimstone Wrote: The gents toilets refurb at work is AWESOME. I hope they do the same in the ladies

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