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Regret
#1
Regret
Well, i decided to just "come out" and tell my brother. The resulting reaction was, well than positive. Here's the full conversation:

Me: hey bro (names have been removed for privacy reasons), you know what an atheist is right?

Brother: yeah, it's someone who doesn't believe in religion.

Me: *mumbles* well i guess thats kind of right

Brother: what?

Me: nothing. So, well, you see, i may be, um, an atheist.

Brother: you can't be!

Me: *mumbles* oh yes i kind of can

Brother: fine! Don't listen to anyone else!

Me: well anyway, i'd like it if you didn't tell mom and dad, you see, i know they're going to find out eventually, but i'd like it to be from me.

Brother: why?

Me: well, if you tell them, it seems like a just a phase i'm going through. But if i tell them, i can make it so they understand that it is a sound decision and that its not going to change.

Brother: well theres no way you can be an atheist!

Me: well, yes there is

Brother: well fine, i guess i just have to tell mom and dad then

Me: no! Thats the worst possible thing for you to do! Just, wait until i tell them? Please?

After that, we both left the room and went to bed. But i can't sleep. I was hoping he'd be mature enough to handle this news. I mean, i've known him since birth. When i fell off a ladder and beoke my arm, he made a makeshift sling out of his shirt until i was taken to the hospital. I don't want this to be an issue that leads to our separation. And if he takes it this badly, i don't even want to know how badly my parents will take it. I need advice on what to do, what to say. I just don't want him to hate me.
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#2
RE: Regret
You cannot change anyone else.
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#3
RE: Regret
(May 22, 2014 at 11:29 pm)Minimalist Wrote: You cannot change anyone else.

I know, but i don't to alienate him either. This is so confusing.
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#4
RE: Regret
(May 22, 2014 at 11:29 pm)Minimalist Wrote: You cannot change anyone else.

Eh, that is debatable. People oftentimes change their views on subjects due to others' interpretations.
"Never trust a fox. Looks like a dog, behaves like a cat."
~ Erin Hunter
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#5
RE: Regret
Your choice is to be yourself or pretend to be what others want you to be.
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#6
RE: Regret
(May 22, 2014 at 11:34 pm)Minimalist Wrote: Your choice is to be yourself or pretend to be what others want you to be.

False Dilemma.
"Never trust a fox. Looks like a dog, behaves like a cat."
~ Erin Hunter
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RE: Regret
(May 22, 2014 at 11:34 pm)Minimalist Wrote: Your choice is to be yourself or pretend to be what others want you to be.

Thats true, but i wish i knew why he's being such a jerk
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#8
RE: Regret
When it comes to regret, I like to use the line from the musical RENT.

Forget regret, or life is yours to miss.
"Never trust a fox. Looks like a dog, behaves like a cat."
~ Erin Hunter
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#9
RE: Regret
(May 22, 2014 at 11:40 pm)Sludgeman101 Wrote:
(May 22, 2014 at 11:34 pm)Minimalist Wrote: Your choice is to be yourself or pretend to be what others want you to be.

Thats true, but i wish i knew why he's being such a jerk

Because some people just won't accept people for who they are.

As my previous, just sit him down and explain your reasoning, why you don't believe. Unfortunately it sounds like he will be the sort who will make all sorts of non sensical claims for your reasoning. Just be honest, straight up and clear.

Playing Cluedo with my mum while I was at Uni:

"You did WHAT?  With WHO?  WHERE???"
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RE: Regret
(May 22, 2014 at 11:45 pm)Beccs Wrote:
(May 22, 2014 at 11:40 pm)Sludgeman101 Wrote: Thats true, but i wish i knew why he's being such a jerk

Because some people just won't accept people for who they are.

As my previous, just sit him down and explain your reasoning, why you don't believe. Unfortunately it sounds like he will be the sort who will make all sorts of non sensical claims for your reasoning. Just be honest, straight up and clear.

Ok, i understand, i will try doing that. But your probably right, he will probably try to make weird, nonsensical claims.
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