Yeah, if you want to get beat up about your faults just look for another relationship.

Seriously though they say the trick to a good relationship isn't to find a perfect mate. You just need to find someone whose faults you can respect and vice versa. We all have warts.

(November 11, 2014 at 12:01 pm)Parkers Tan Wrote: Indeed. I'm working on the flaws she's pointed out ... and there are many.

Please be very cautious with this endeavor. Don't allow the sting of the breakup to unduly influence your assessment of her evaluation. The character traits and behaviors she considered flaws may very well be accepted, understood, tolerated or even enjoyed by another.

(November 10, 2014 at 7:48 pm)Parkers Tan Wrote: Breakups suck. I'm going through one right now. It's partly my fault, partly hers, and deeply unhappy all the same.

To hell with falling in love.

Love is overrated. We need a broken heart emoticon.
I went through a breakup a few months ago, he wanted to talk this weekend. Never happened. I think that door is shut. (for me, maybe not him...but I'm not one for 'going back.')

Sorry you're hurting.

(November 11, 2014 at 12:58 pm)Cato Wrote:

(November 11, 2014 at 12:01 pm)Parkers Tan Wrote: Indeed. I'm working on the flaws she's pointed out ... and there are many.

Please be very cautious with this endeavor. Don't allow the sting of the breakup to unduly influence your assessment of her evaluation. The character traits and behaviors she considered flaws may very well be accepted, understood, tolerated or even enjoyed by another.

I hear you, but some of what she has said has been in our conversations for a few months, and I've recognized the justice of her points. It's just changing habitual behavior is goddamned difficult.

I'm certainly not taking everything she's said as the blueprint for self-improvement; and I've been frustrated by her lack of reciprocity at times -- the points that I regard as problems in her behavior just didn't get the same concern from her.

But as Pickup said, it is a growth opportunity. Truth be told, I'm a better man for having known her, and part of that will be going forward and learning what I can from this. Failure analysis is something I try to practice when the occasion merits, and this is no different.

Thanks for all your kind words, people. I appreciate having a place where I can vent, and sort, the welter of emotions going on right now.

So we spiraled in tonight. I'm sad, but it's for the best, I suppose.

Back to being the Outside Cat.

(November 11, 2014 at 12:39 pm)Napoléon Wrote: Don't beat yourself up too much though, nobody's perfect.

Except for Alice, of course.

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(January 9, 2015 at 12:41 am)Parkers Tan Wrote: So we spiraled in tonight. I'm sad, but it's for the best, I suppose.

* Violet offers you hugs, and hopes that 'it being for the best' happens sooner for you, rather than later.

Thanks, Alice.

(January 9, 2015 at 12:56 am)Parkers Tan Wrote: Thanks, Alice.

Sorry, Thump

I appreciate y'all.

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(January 9, 2015 at 12:58 am)Alice Wrote:

(January 9, 2015 at 12:56 am)Parkers Tan Wrote: Thanks, Alice.

Hahahah, it's not that I don't, it's just ... well ... I'll shut up.