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RE: So, I complimented this girl today...
August 31, 2017 at 3:51 am
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Definitely creepy.
If you like her just ask her out. All the tip toeing around will just be creepy af.
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RE: So, I complimented this girl today...
August 31, 2017 at 4:32 am
Op, you've done your job. You've planted the seed.
Now you just say Hi and wave from a distance if you cross paths. If she's interested, she'll do the rest, in time.
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RE: So, I complimented this girl today...
August 31, 2017 at 5:50 am
Most communication is non verbal so this situation could have a thousand different contexts.
Like CL says complimenting make up does sound like something another female or a homosexual might do, unless she had some sort of distinctive make up that you genuinely noticed. And then it goes back to how you said it and your body language.
If you're the same age as her then it's not creepy, I'm 32 so if I was to tell a girl of typical college age that I like her make up at my age then it would be creepy. In your situation it's probably just a failed stereotypical chat up line delivered by a nervous guy.
It sounds no where near as bad as some of the cringe inducing behavior I've done and seen other people do in an attempt to talk to girls.
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RE: So, I complimented this girl today...
August 31, 2017 at 6:57 am
Chatting up an older chick, very cool.
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RE: So, I complimented this girl today...
August 31, 2017 at 11:52 am
(August 30, 2017 at 9:30 pm)Thena323 Wrote: Idk. Personally, I'm rather skeptical of men who who express interest based on absolutely nothing other than physical appearance. I regard it as shallow at best and creepy at worst, depending on how persistent they are.
Perhaps you should ask for her opinion on the latest lecture or class in general next time. Pretend that you have an interest in something other than her body and/or face.
ABSOLUTELY this!
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RE: So, I complimented this girl today...
August 31, 2017 at 11:58 am
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(August 30, 2017 at 9:30 pm)Thena323 Wrote: Idk. Personally, I'm rather skeptical of men who who express interest based on absolutely nothing other than physical appearance. I regard it as shallow at best and creepy at worst, depending on how persistent they are.
I mean, that's how the initial attraction happens a lot of times though. You see someone you feel a physical attraction to, and motivated by that, you then try to get to know them to see if the attraction extends beyond the physical. I'm not saying it can't or doesn't ever happen the other way around. But I don't personally see anything wrong with it being a physical attraction first....
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RE: So, I complimented this girl today...
August 31, 2017 at 12:12 pm
(August 30, 2017 at 6:03 pm)spyrofannumber1 Wrote: Today I went to my college class for a lecture and to take some notes. I’ve only been to this class for the second time, and this girl sitting directly in front of me caught my eye. I got a better look at her, and she was beautiful. I made a pact with myself to compliment her that day. When class ended, I decided to ask my professor a question. I wanted to get my stuff packed up before I did though. So when pretty much everyone had left. I saw the girl asking the professor a question herself. She happened to not have her stuff packed up. It took me a while to pack everything up, but, when I did, I wanted to break the ice. " Do I know you? you look familiar. Are you from around this area." I said. She mentioned places that were no where near where I lived( and tbh I didn’t recognize her), but I wanted to try something, right? She was almost packed up when I decided to spew a statement of, " I like your makeup". I said smiling. She smiled back and said “thank you.” Leaving right after. I’m usually not that bold, yet I felt smooth. At the same time I felt like a creep and/or jerk. I wish I could’ve talked to her more though. Could someone please tell me if I said anything wrong or to forward? Or did I say the right thing? Thanks.
I wouldn't stress it.
At least you didn't do what I did as a teen. I pined after a girl for years without saying anything to her until Church one day when I asked her out DURING CHURCH, she was shocked and embarrassed needless to say, her brother threatened to kick my ass.
I had tons of anxiety with females as a teen and early 20s. My advice is just be yourself, don't be too aggressive, and relax around her. Ask her what her interests are, let it be about her, don't over do the complements now that you have made one. But the reality is even if she is good looking, if you have nothing in common it would be stupid to pursue a relationship.
You sound young, let me clue you in. Most humans are not the cliche cheerleader or quarterback, and most people both boys and girls and women and men go through lots of rejection before they find a long term partner. The best way to look at it is not to dream or pine for a utopia. Just be yourself and if she likes you, she will like you for you, nothing else.
If she is not attracted to you, it doesn't make you bad or her wrong, it just means she is not attracted to you. Don't let your hormones get the best of you. Not saying don't try, but meaningful relationships are not just about looks. And if she doesn't work out, the world has plenty of women.
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RE: So, I complimented this girl today...
August 31, 2017 at 12:47 pm
I am so not reading 6 pages so I apologize if this has been said or if the topic has moved on since the OP but my thoughts...
I don't think you were creepy nor do I think what you said was weird coming from a guy. I try to compliment people when I get the courage regardless of motivation. I know I enjoy compliments when done sincerely so I try to pay it forward. Now I am super shy so some of them go unsaid but if I can find the right time to say it I try. It usually makes them smile bigger which makes me happy. I think you did well sweetie.
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RE: So, I complimented this girl today...
August 31, 2017 at 12:51 pm
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(August 31, 2017 at 3:32 am)Longhorn Wrote: I know I wouldn't like to hear I'm pretty, but I know girls that would. It's almost as if we're different people
Wow.
Don't let me stop you there, do go on, I'm taking notes here dammit.
(August 31, 2017 at 4:32 am)ignoramus Wrote: Op, you've done your job. You've planted the seed.
I do that all the time. Just not anywhere fertile.
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RE: So, I complimented this girl today...
August 31, 2017 at 3:24 pm
(August 31, 2017 at 11:58 am)Catholic_Lady Wrote: (August 30, 2017 at 9:30 pm)Thena323 Wrote: Idk. Personally, I'm rather skeptical of men who who express interest based on absolutely nothing other than physical appearance. I regard it as shallow at best and creepy at worst, depending on how persistent they are.
I mean, that's how the initial attraction happens a lot of times though. You see someone you feel a physical attraction to, and motivated by that, you then try to get to know them to see if the attraction extends beyond the physical. I'm not saying it can't or doesn't ever happen the other way around. But I don't personally see anything wrong with it being a physical attraction first....
Yeah. I know that.
Doesn't that mean that it doesn't skeeze some folks when they're blatantly objectified though.
Makes some folks uncomfortable.
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