Polyamory

[Whateverist]

I imagine that a person's thoughts about polyamory are inversely proportional to their thoughts about fornication.

Personally I prefer when my wife talks dirtier than "fornicate".  I mean, fuck that.  Got to keep some fun and spark in it, right?

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Not for me, and in my personal opinion, not moral.

See, that's what I'm talking about.  You make it fun.  I think you say "not moral" in a steamy hot way.

[Neo-Scholastic]

Personally I prefer when my wife talks dirtier than "fornicate".  

One time I asked my wife to talk dirty so she called me a cocksucker. I never asked again.

[Seraphina]

I've dated more than one man at a time but as for a serious relationship, one at a time is enough. I also have a young child who needs my attention. More than one guy would mean taking my attention away from my kid, which I won't do.

-Teresa

[Whateverist]

I've dated more than one man at a time but as for a serious relationship, one at a time is enough. I also have a young child who needs my attention. More than one guy would mean taking my attention away from my kid, which I won't do.

-Teresa

That's what I was getting at.  To have time enough for fun stuff like child rearing who has time for more than one fun but possibly needy adult?

[brewer]

Not for me, and in my personal opinion, not moral.

See, that's what I'm talking about.  You make it fun.  I think you say "not moral" in a steamy hot way.

I would have preferred a...moral but, ya know, different strokes.

[Whateverist]

See, that's what I'm talking about.  You make it fun.  I think you say "not moral" in a steamy hot way.

I would have preferred a...moral but, ya know, different strokes.

Sir, I like the way you kink.

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Then again if C_L were to say "not moral" while wearing a Catholic school uniform, well .. you see my point.

[ignoramus]

If God is real and can read minds, I'm a goner and now so are you guys! Yeah, I just wanted some good company in hell ... sorry about that..

[johan]

What are your thoughts on polyamory?

In general I think its fine so long as all involved are consenting. No reason it shouldn't be legal. 

That being said, its not for me.  As far as I can see, being in a relationship with multiple partners would provide more of everything. And to me, that's not really a good thing. I mean its great when everything's perfect and you get more love and more sex and everyone's happy all the time.

But you get more of EVERYTHING. So if you're a person who has a history of finding yourself in relationships that are somewhat dysfunctional, it stands to reason that your relationship with multiple partners could be even more dysfunctional. If you're a a person who has a history of choosing partners that turn out to be physically or emotionally abusive, stands to reason you're going to end up with two partners who are physically or emotionally abusive. 

And of course breaking up with one person always hard and complicated. Breaking up with two certainly isn't going to be simpler.

On the abusive thing I'm not just talking theory here, I've seen it happen. I'm friends with a couple who had wanted a third partner since before I met them. Their marriage was solid and strong by most measures but had a few elements that I would personally consider abusive. Namely she tended to talk down to him. Every pot has a lid and this element of their relationship obviously bothered him to live with it much less than it bothered me to see it. Fast forward a bit, they found their third partner and had a small private (obviously not legal) ceremony.

I had moved from the area by this time so I was only aware of the new partner through facebook and phone calls. A few years ago I went back for a visit and met the new wife. And as you would guess this husband now has two wives that routinely talk down to him. Again, he's obviously good with it. But that doesn't mean its respectful nor does it mean its healthy. 

Having more of everything isn't always better IMO.

[rexbeccarox]

For while, I thought polyamory would maybe be my thing until I met a person whom I wouldn't want to share. That one ended (sadly for me), but it made me realize polyamory probably isn't for me.

[The Valkyrie]

Dealing with one whiny male at a time is enough.