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(April 7, 2018 at 12:58 pm)*Deidre* Wrote: CIJS, I'm an impulsive shopper, often filled with buyers remorse. How to stop?
Do you use a credit card or a debit card, or cash?
If cash, keep with you only as much as you need.
If debit, have it tied into an account that won't let you spend much.
If credit, ditch it.
I try to use cash, only.
CIJS - I'm proud of myself today. I was going to buy hair extensions (my hair is already long but I thought they'd look cool) and I didn't do it! Go me!
You've got your PC connected to my living room TV nearly 100% of the time, not to mention all your music gear has permamently found a home out there as well.
You're home all day while we're at work. When you're practicing your guitar out there - oh by the way, that's MY amp - nobody is able to really use the common areas of the house. For someone who isn't working or helping out with the household expenses, your foot print is too goddamn big.
I haven't heard from you for months. You call and I am instantly greeted with "I need a favor from you and I need you to do this because of all I've done for you."
"Well hello to you too."
"Well, my grandmother is at xxxx hospital down in Maryland and I want you to go down there and cut her hair for her before she dies. Thing is, I don't have any money to pay you but I figured that since I've gone to court for you all those times and everything else I have done, you could do this for me."
"Okay - first - you've gone to court twice and only testified once."
"Well, I had to get a babysitter and I didn't ask you to pay for that."
"Your mother doesn't count as a babysitter. She's family, but nice try. Second, you are asking me to make a 50 mile round trip. The local court house was four miles into town. Do you have any gas money, say ten bucks?"
"I told you I can't pay you."
"So you can't even chip in ten lousy dollars for me to at least get down there? Rob is the only one working right now."
"Jay is the only one working here and all my money is going in my own gas tank back and forth down there. You need to do this because of everything I've done for you."
"So you want me to spend my own money to put gas in my vehicle to drive into a state where I'm not legally licensed to practice, where my credentials could be asked for, because a hospital is a professional setting and anyone could ask for my license at any time. And you want me to spend the better part of my day doing this and you don't want to pay me?"
"Well I've done a lot for you."
"No. You haven't. Going to the court house twice is not doing a lot for me. I've watched your middle child on several occasions, for free. The only time you call here is if you want something and just now - you couldn't ask me how I was - nope. You just jumped right into a guilt trip and how I owe you. Fuck that shit. I worked hard to get my license and you trying to throw a two instances of where you went to a court house and then forget about everything else that I've done for you, to try and guilt me into cutting hair out of state, and risk my license doing so - and you can't even give me some fucking gas money?"
Friends don't try to put guilt trips on friends nor do they throw "help" from the past in their faces. You aren't the only one who's done stuff. It's been reciprocated on more than one occasion and for you to try and do this is and ask me to just be okay with that is just low."
No response from her, but her hanging up on me. Nice to know this is how you act when you can't guilt someone into doing your shit for you.
Ain't nobody got time for that. Bye.
Disclaimer: I am only responsible for what I say, not what you choose to understand.
(November 14, 2018 at 8:57 pm)The Valkyrie Wrote: Have a good day at work. If we ever meet in a professional setting, let me answer your question now. Yes, I DO want fries with that.
I haven't heard from you for months. You call and I am instantly greeted with "I need a favor from you and I need you to do this because of all I've done for you."
"Well hello to you too."
"Well, my grandmother is at xxxx hospital down in Maryland and I want you to go down there and cut her hair for her before she dies. Thing is, I don't have any money to pay you but I figured that since I've gone to court for you all those times and everything else I have done, you could do this for me."
"Okay - first - you've gone to court twice and only testified once."
"Well, I had to get a babysitter and I didn't ask you to pay for that."
"Your mother doesn't count as a babysitter. She's family, but nice try. Second, you are asking me to make a 50 mile round trip. The local court house was four miles into town. Do you have any gas money, say ten bucks?"
"I told you I can't pay you."
"So you can't even chip in ten lousy dollars for me to at least get down there? Rob is the only one working right now."
"Jay is the only one working here and all my money is going in my own gas tank back and forth down there. You need to do this because of everything I've done for you."
"So you want me to spend my own money to put gas in my vehicle to drive into a state where I'm not legally licensed to practice, where my credentials could be asked for, because a hospital is a professional setting and anyone could ask for my license at any time. And you want me to spend the better part of my day doing this and you don't want to pay me?"
"Well I've done a lot for you."
"No. You haven't. Going to the court house twice is not doing a lot for me. I've watched your middle child on several occasions, for free. The only time you call here is if you want something and just now - you couldn't ask me how I was - nope. You just jumped right into a guilt trip and how I owe you. Fuck that shit. I worked hard to get my license and you trying to throw a two instances of where you went to a court house and then forget about everything else that I've done for you, to try and guilt me into cutting hair out of state, and risk my license doing so - and you can't even give me some fucking gas money?"
Friends don't try to put guilt trips on friends nor do they throw "help" from the past in their faces. You aren't the only one who's done stuff. It's been reciprocated on more than one occasion and for you to try and do this is and ask me to just be okay with that is just low."
No response from her, but her hanging up on me. Nice to know this is how you act when you can't guilt someone into doing your shit for you.
It’s going to be my 4th event and I’m crazy about the way I have grown from one to another. At the first one, I was in a dark place and all my poetry reflected that. At the second event, I was ready to take control of my life, and all my poetry reflected that. At the third event I was enjoying victory and all my poetry reflected that. Now I’m preparing my fourth poetry event and I can write about anything in the world that I want, and none of it has to do with all of that.
You know when you see someone and then don’t for a very long time, and then when you do again you can tell the difference? If they gained or lost weight, it’s noticeable even if they don’t see it day to day. If a child grows a few inches, you notice. Well, I feel like I’m a different person at every one of these events and I can’t wait to wear my rested self onto that platform.
Yippee ki yay, mother fuckers!
Also... I love you guys. So much. Thank you for everything.
"Hipster is what happens when young hot people do what old ladies do." -Exian
I haven't heard from you for months. You call and I am instantly greeted with "I need a favor from you and I need you to do this because of all I've done for you."
"Well hello to you too."
"Well, my grandmother is at xxxx hospital down in Maryland and I want you to go down there and cut her hair for her before she dies. Thing is, I don't have any money to pay you but I figured that since I've gone to court for you all those times and everything else I have done, you could do this for me."
"Okay - first - you've gone to court twice and only testified once."
"Well, I had to get a babysitter and I didn't ask you to pay for that."
"Your mother doesn't count as a babysitter. She's family, but nice try. Second, you are asking me to make a 50 mile round trip. The local court house was four miles into town. Do you have any gas money, say ten bucks?"
"I told you I can't pay you."
"So you can't even chip in ten lousy dollars for me to at least get down there? Rob is the only one working right now."
"Jay is the only one working here and all my money is going in my own gas tank back and forth down there. You need to do this because of everything I've done for you."
"So you want me to spend my own money to put gas in my vehicle to drive into a state where I'm not legally licensed to practice, where my credentials could be asked for, because a hospital is a professional setting and anyone could ask for my license at any time. And you want me to spend the better part of my day doing this and you don't want to pay me?"
"Well I've done a lot for you."
"No. You haven't. Going to the court house twice is not doing a lot for me. I've watched your middle child on several occasions, for free. The only time you call here is if you want something and just now - you couldn't ask me how I was - nope. You just jumped right into a guilt trip and how I owe you. Fuck that shit. I worked hard to get my license and you trying to throw a two instances of where you went to a court house and then forget about everything else that I've done for you, to try and guilt me into cutting hair out of state, and risk my license doing so - and you can't even give me some fucking gas money?"
Friends don't try to put guilt trips on friends nor do they throw "help" from the past in their faces. You aren't the only one who's done stuff. It's been reciprocated on more than one occasion and for you to try and do this is and ask me to just be okay with that is just low."
No response from her, but her hanging up on me. Nice to know this is how you act when you can't guilt someone into doing your shit for you.
Ain't nobody got time for that. Bye.
I suspect my list just got bigger.
Nah I wouldn't let you waste your time on such smallness. I've got much bigger fish for you to fry
Disclaimer: I am only responsible for what I say, not what you choose to understand.
(November 14, 2018 at 8:57 pm)The Valkyrie Wrote: Have a good day at work. If we ever meet in a professional setting, let me answer your question now. Yes, I DO want fries with that.
Hello, Mr Cheeto von Tweeto, I'm going to be your surgeon today for your penectomy and double orchiectomy, without anesthetic. Huh, had to add two words to the site dictionary today.
If you get to thinking you’re a person of some influence, try ordering somebody else’s dog around.
