The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)

[Shell B]

I miss violet and Void, I guess they're not around anymore

So much.

[LadyForCamus]

I don’t have to be civil when talking about folks who are banned, right? 😇

[Shell B]

Good question.

Wait, you don't have to be civil at all. Nothing has happened yet, and I don't think it will be quite that.

[tackattack]

This isn't Ryleh, she should at least try to be civil right? There is no requirement to keep rules, we could all just go anarchy. Meh. burn it all I could go either way

[Private]

Well I guess I'll play nice .. but only if I have to.  But if its optional I would sometimes choose dark humor, absurdity and irony.

...Exactly dark humor, irony and only this ... you're a good man and you always treat people with respect and that's what counts ...😊

[I_am_not_mafia]

...But because I hardly EVER talk to ANYONE in my real life about my baby loss/infertility. I don't do it because I don't want to burden friends/family with it, nor do I want to put people in an awkward situation. I act with them like I'm totally fine and downplay how I am feeling in the rare occasions that they do bring it up. When people reach out to me to tell me they are pregnant or go on to me about their kids, I just smile and go along with it and act totally normal even though it kills me inside. I've made a total of 3 posts about this on my facebook in the past 2 1/2 years - one to say I lost the baby (since I had unfortunately already announced my pregnancy), the second one a few months ago to say I was practically sterile and never going to have kids (because I know people are wondering and it makes for an elephant in the room, since people don't know because I never talk about it), and the 3rd one just recently to say I was moving on.  

Since I don't talk about it in real life, I have on occasion vented about it here. My post that is being addressed above was posted in the CIJS thread, because that is specifically where vent posts are made. And that is all it was - me using it as an outlet to vent. It wasn't an attempt to garner pity or attention. 

Sorry CL to hear that you lost a baby. My mum had a miscarriage as well and I am aware that it can be devastating. I'm infertile so it was never an option for me but I do appreciate that having a baby can be your whole reason for being. I also understand that sometimes we just want to scream out and communicate with other people what we're going through.

[Shell B]

This isn't Ryleh, she should at least try to be civil right? There is no requirement to keep rules, we could all just go anarchy. Meh. burn it all I could go either way  

There is no rule about civility.

[I_am_not_mafia]

Catholic_Lady your mistake is that you became their friend as in you really became their friend.


You got to be a friendly enemy like me!

Yeah that's not helping.

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Catholic_Lady, I think my mom would agree with me that motherhood is overrated

That's definitely not helping.

And you claim to care for CL?

[tackattack]

This isn't Ryleh, she should at least try to be civil right? There is no requirement to keep rules, we could all just go anarchy. Meh. burn it all I could go either way  

There is no rule about civility.

wait WHAT. I thought that was the whole purpose of the prime directive. Maybe my definitions are off.

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"Staff reserve the right to ban certain members from these threads if they are deemed to be flaming or trolling. Posts which are comprised of mostly insulting language, name calling rather than addressing points, overly negative generalizations of entire groups of people (unless strongly supported by evidence), etc. will be considered as flaming. Posts which are comprised of outrageous misrepresentations of events within the public record will be considered as trolling."
"and the no personal attacks rule" which doesn't apply here

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I thought that was civility. My definition of civility doesn't include watching your fucking language. what did I miss.

[Tiberius]

You're kinda correct. The rule was created to try and be tougher on trolling and flaming. The issue is we haven't implemented it very well.