(April 19, 2015 at 11:03 pm)CapnAwesome Wrote: I was reading the random slut-shaming troll thread and scrolling through it I was a little surprised at the number of people who seemed to think that it mattered at all. It doesn't. I couldn't give half a care about who I'm datings sexual past. I never even ask unless it comes up in normal conversation (which of course it normally does anyway, because sex is a pretty interesting conversation topic.) Why does anyone seem to care?
I'm married and have been with the same man for over 9 years now. But I did used to care when I was single and looking for someone to date/marry. Because I was saving myself for marriage, I wanted to be with someone who had also saved himself. I even went as far as to make it a deal breaker if a guy was not a virgin.
Mind you, I was a teenager. Looking back on it now, I realize how insecure and egotistical it was of me to have this thing where I absolutely *must* marry a virgin. If someone had made a mistake in the past but was at that point committed to waiting for marriage to have sex again, I should have been 100% open to them and not given it a second thought.
All this is now a moot point anyway, since I married the greatest man alive and have zero regrets.
...But I will definitely teach my children to not discount people in any way for mistakes they have made in their past.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh
-walsh
