(August 4, 2015 at 2:45 pm)Exian Wrote: As an atheist, I see no reason to save one's self for marriage anymore. But I wonder if there is some benefit to saving yourself outside of sinning (which, of course, I don't believe in)?
My new view of sex is that it can be very unhealthy to hold sex up like that. It worked for you C_L, but imagine if it didn't work out for you (I'm not saying everything worked out perfectly for you, and that you've never known a hardship). You would have been crushed, yeah? I know I was, and I don't know that I came out stronger either. Because I was blind sided, I developed a strong distrust with women (not in general- specifically as a love interest), and that depends on if I even decide its worth it to try. Had I had a lower opinion of sex and a more realistic understanding of relationships when I was younger, I may not have had to go through that.
Are you talking about if I had held out until marriage and then my husband had cheated on me?
Yes, I can see how that would make it all the more hurtful. But I do think that if 2 people are so committed to their idea of sexual morality that they are willing to wait until they are married, there is less of a chance of one of them cheating afterwards. Not saying it never happens, but waiting until marriage is very very difficult, and if someone is strong enough to do that, then I imagine most of them would also be strong enough to stay loyal to their spouse.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh
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