(August 4, 2015 at 2:45 pm)Exian Wrote: As an atheist, I see no reason to save one's self for marriage anymore. But I wonder if there is some benefit to saving yourself outside of sinning (which, of course, I don't believe in)?
My new view of sex is that it can be very unhealthy to hold sex up like that. It worked for you C_L, but imagine if it didn't work out for you (I'm not saying everything worked out perfectly for you, and that you've never known a hardship). You would have been crushed, yeah? I know I was, and I don't know that I came out stronger either. Because I was blind sided, I developed a strong distrust with women (not in general- specifically as a love interest), and that depends on if I even decide its worth it to try. Had I had a lower opinion of sex and a more realistic understanding of relationships when I was younger, I may not have had to go through that.
Sex is a big part of romantic relationships. Prior to birth control, saving it until marriage might make sense just because of the risk. But, I can't imagine why saving it until the attachment is permanent would be a good idea now. Sex is an important part of bonding (besides being fun) and finding out what kind of sex partner they are before committing is a very good idea.
If there is a god, I want to believe that there is a god. If there is not a god, I want to believe that there is no god.
