(August 5, 2015 at 4:33 pm)Parkers Tan Wrote:(August 5, 2015 at 3:43 pm)Pyrrho Wrote: Now, if sex is important to you, why would it not make a difference if the sex is bad? Working on it may or may not improve it, so it may be that the bad sex is all you would ever get in such a case.
Are you saying that you care about sex, but do not care if it is bad?
It's not a matter of not caring about the quality of the sex. It's about not making it a relationship-killer. Working on it can and does work, and there's no reason to not go that route first if you truly love her, right?
It's a subtle point, but it's valid, I think. When I love a woman, we talk about what does and doesn't work in the bedroom so that both of us may enjoy it. If after time she shows no desire to accommodate my desires as I try to accommodate hers, then sure, there will be problems. But in that case the problem is not only sexual, for me; it's about being in an unequal partnership, where one partner's wishes get more attention than the other's.
This. If I'm willing to leave and not marry the man I love because sex hadn't been amazing initially, then how can I promise him to be by his side in sickness and in health if he gets paralyzed and unable to have sex after we are married?
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh
-walsh
