Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?

[Catholic_Lady]

How else is it supposed to traverse uneven terrain?

Regarding the point you've been making these last few posts, for a second there I was about to disagree with you on certain aspects of it, before I realized the issue was with me, not with what you're saying. When it comes to sex things my mind is so open it's basically a flat plain upon which almost anything can happen, so at first I was just like "wait, why not just do the BDSM anyway, even if they're not into it, if it makes their partner happy?" because even if it's not a kink I personally have (not that BDSM isn't my kink because it totally is ) I can still appreciate it on an anthropological level just by seeing what, specifically, about it turns on my partner. Even if I can find no arousing part of the act, it still has appeal as a curio, like fine art.

But not everyone is like me, in that respect, and I got that way through a pretty weird sexually formative period in my life. I can pretty much learn kinks, while other people can be stuck in theirs. With that in mind, I still can't imagine going into a sexual relationship with someone completely blind; even with my variable tastes I need to know what I'm getting into. Luckie and I had sex within like half an hour of being in the same physical space as one another, and that was great, but if it hadn't been then that would have been extremely useful information to have, and in either case it came on the back of countless long distance sexy times and extremely thorough accounts of where we were at, sexually. I can't imagine our first time in that hotel room going anywhere near as smoothly if I hadn't come in equipped with the knowledge of what turns her on and what doesn't.

Here's a hint: it's choking.  

Cl I want to build something on what Esq is saying here. Sexual gratification is one of the major reasons that people cheat on their partners. It's because they haven't explore these aspects of themselves and they themselves may not know what they really want, sometimes not till eyars later. So you have to explore these things inn yourself and with your partner before you get married, else you have a sexually unsatisfactory marriage that will make most people cheat. So premarital sex is a good thing because it helps you grow as a individual and well, it feels fucking awesome.

Are there statistics saying that people who save sex for marriage cheat more? I may be wrong, but I'd imagine it to be the other way around.