(August 5, 2015 at 5:39 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:(August 5, 2015 at 4:33 pm)Parkers Tan Wrote: It's not a matter of not caring about the quality of the sex. It's about not making it a relationship-killer. Working on it can and does work, and there's no reason to not go that route first if you truly love her, right?
It's a subtle point, but it's valid, I think. When I love a woman, we talk about what does and doesn't work in the bedroom so that both of us may enjoy it. If after time she shows no desire to accommodate my desires as I try to accommodate hers, then sure, there will be problems. But in that case the problem is not only sexual, for me; it's about being in an unequal partnership, where one partner's wishes get more attention than the other's.
This. If I'm willing to leave and not marry the man I love because sex hadn't been amazing initially, then how can I promise him to be by his side in sickness and in health if he gets paralyzed and unable to have sex after we are married?
Well, I would not have married my wife if she were not intelligent and nice. But if she gets Alzheimer's or otherwise becomes unintelligent, I am not going to divorce her due to that.
"A wise man ... proportions his belief to the evidence."
— David Hume, An Enquiry Concerning Human Understanding, Section X, Part I.
