(August 7, 2015 at 2:09 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: Does Catholic_Lady have nothing to say about the idea that there might be hidden fantasies going on?
Sorry.
But I think I covered this when I said that saving sex for marriage is not some sort of magical thing that ensures great sex. There needs to be self giving love and open communication on the part of both spouses, and there needs to be open communication about sex before they get married as well, so they can get a sense of each other's sexuality.
If one of them has a fantasy, then heck, they should tell their spouse! The spouse should be happy to do what makes the other person happy. Ideally though, this sort of thing should come up before they are married through open communication about sexuality. My two cents.
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